One of the ultimate wedding dilemmas I faced is that I hid my engagement from family. The awkward congratulations and questioning eyes from family were all reasons why I hid my engagement. Is there ever a good time to break the news? Ultimately, I hid my engagement from family, here’s why I did it.
A recent engagement should always be a happy moment. However, I was really skeptical afterwards for various reasons. One being that I didn’t know how my family would react. My fiance and I were in a long distance relationship and I didn’t think my family would approve.
Regrettably, I was so caught up with how others would react, I didn’t stop to think how it would affect my fiance and I’s relationship. I now know that I should have never hid my engagement.
2. Would my family approve?
There’s always that one person in your family who will disapprove of the relationship between you and your significant other. I felt overwhelmed with pressure that I wasn’t the one for him. I let my family’s opinions dictate whether I told everyone about our engagement.
I hid my engagement because I thought my family wouldn’t approve. Love always prevails and we are almost happily married and our families couldn’t be more happier.
3. Waiting for the right time?
Timing is everything, right? Well it played in a huge factor in why I hid my engagement. Since our relationship was long distance, it felt odd to tell everyone that we’re engaged. I wanted to wait until we were living together to reveal the details.
But, honestly there isn’t ever a right time. And with that in mind, we eventually told friends and family our exciting news. I don’t regret it because it was the happiest day of my life.
4. My Parents Advised Against It At First
I spoke to my parents about what they thought if I were to get married. It was random and I was curious. They both replied with marriage is too soon, especially since my fiance and I didn’t live together at the time.
The advice they offered was great, but I had a different idea in mind. I love this man and knew that I wanted to take our relationship further, even if my family wasn’t keen on the idea at first.
5. My Sister Was Planning Her Wedding
There’s always that mindset that siblings try and out show one another. For me that wasn’t the case. With my older sister planning her wedding, it was hard not to share my good news with everyone. I didn’t want to steal her moment, and that is a huge factor in why I hid my engagement from family.
Before her wedding I spilled the beans and everything was great. No hard feelings.
Ultimately, I regret that I hid my engagement from family. It’s taught me to be more open and honest in my relationship. At the time I thought my reasons were right, but it hurt my loved one. If you’re engaged and reluctant to share the news just no that there is never a perfect time.
If you’re in love go for it.