We all have that one friend, or a few friends, who hasn’t been single basically ever. If any of my friends read this, I already know it’s me – bite me. No that does not make me a serial dater, although I did go through a phase where I was essentially a Bumble queen; and let me say, it was a lot of fun. I’m 24 and allowed to enjoy my youth every now and then. However, there is a difference between a serial monogamist and a serial dater. A serial monogamist is someone who wants to be in a relationship versus a serial dater; the person who just wants to see multiple people at one time. A monogamist take commitment seriously. Okay, while some of you say a they is someone who fears being alone, that could be true. Nevertheless, here are some signs you’re a serial monogamist #noshame.
Signs You’re A Serial Monogamist
You’re Always In A Relationship
This is obviously the most important sign of distinguishing if a serial monogamist. It’s the most obvious, no? They’re never without a boyfriend. They’re someone who has one long-term relationship. It’s a series of dating commitments.
You Still Talk About Your Exes
A serial monogamist still talks about their exes in their new relationships since they switch out of them so fast. They simply can’t get their exes out of their head. Although – I would like to argue, that’s not necessarily the case. Most people in relationships still have thoughts about their exes. It doesn’t make you a serial monogamist. However, if you still obsess over your exes, then there is a problem.
Your Hook-Ups Become Serious
If you are one, you like the stability of a relationship. Again, nothing to be ashamed of. Just make sure you want a relationship for the proper reasons.
People tend to think there are deeper issues at hand. If you recognize that you are a serial monogamist, take some time for yourself to develop and be alright with being alone. There is a reason you most likely feel the need to jump from relationship to relationship. Make sure you are giving yourself enough time to focus on yourself.
Let us know what you think about being a serial monogamist in the comments below!
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Hi, I'm Leah, a Los Angelino living in Boston! I'm a grad from Northeastern University with a Bachelors from the College of Arts, Media and Design. I'm obsessed with going on adventures, photography, writing, being a Taurus and finding hidden gem restaurants, musicians and places to travel. I live for tacos and you can't keep me away from a cute farm stand. I also live for Instagram ... oops!