Although sex isn’t as much of a taboo topic now as it has been in the past, it still doesn’t get the discussion it deserves in relationships and hook ups. It’s completely normal to not only discuss your sex life with a partner, but it’s also normal to want to spice things up when things get bland and routine. If you’re looking to add some extra excitement into your sex life, check out these 10 tips!
Having to schedule sex or just not having sex as frequently as you’d like? Try to spark some romance by unpredicted foreplay. Washing the dishes? Watching TV? Stuck in the same daily routine? Surprise your partner when they least expect it! Eventually, things will heat up and naturally take their course to the bedroom. Not only will your adrenaline be rushing from the spontaneity of it all, but both of you will start off the round extremely aroused from the unexpected passion.
Foreplay is so important for sex. Not only does it build anticipation and is super hot and fun, but it’s also a way to guarantee that a woman’s body starts self-lubricating. Try teasing your partner with kisses on different parts of the body, or ignite some excitement by making out with roaming hands. Maybe even straddle their lap and start stripping down. If you’re looking for more touching, start rubbing up on each other, leading to hand jobs and fingering. However you want to incorporate it, foreplay is guaranteed to help your sex life.
3. Dirty Talk
Dirty talk can be pleasurable for both sides. Whoever likes taking control will enjoy telling the other dirty things, and the other person who likes hearing it will become more aroused. Try thinking of sexy phrases you can add into your sex life by including some things you know will get your partner off. If you’re dominant, it can be as simple as telling your partner exactly what you want to do to them or have them do for you. If you’re more submissive, you can start by begging your partner for certain things. Either way, you’ll both be have a fun time, and you’ll get to audibly enjoy just how badly your partner wants you.
Now, oral sex may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but it is a pleasurable experience for most people. If you’re looking for something new to try, and oral isn’t something you and your partner have experienced, you should definitely try it out. Not only does it feel amazing, but it can bring you guys that much closer as it is a very intimate act. Try going down on your partner and look up tips on how to tease with your tongue and mouth. It’s almost always assured that you’ll both end up with an earth-shattering orgasm afterward.
Dressing up for your partner can boost your confidence and titillate your boo in ways you couldn’t imagine. Your partner will enjoy looking at you and fantasizing, but you’ll also get to feel that much sexier. Add some seductive lingerie to your wardrobe so you can dress to impress! There are also lingerie options for plus-size men and women, so everyone has the chance to feel alluring and sultry. Dressing up is promised to lead to stripping down, so there’s no harm in being seductive both ways.
6. New Positions
Sex position options are honestly never-ending. Missionary, Doggy, Cowgirl, Reverse Cowgirl, Lotus, Seesaw, Spooning, Anvil, Leapfrog, Piledriver, etc. Whatever you can think of, there’s a sex position that’s been created for it. Missionary sex can be great and all, but playing around with different positions promises and enlightenment of new ways to make you orgasm. Read up on alternative ways to have sex and try them out ASAP! You’ll find out what you like while also figuring out what your partner likes. It’s a win-win for your sex life.
7. Different Locations
You don’t HAVE to confine sex solely to your bedroom. A change in scenery would shake your sex life up a bit and keep things exciting. There are all types of rooms in your place—use them to your advantage! Couch sex, counter sex, table sex, floor sex, shower sex. So many possibilities. Maybe make it a deal to have sex in each room of your place to spice things up. You can also try sex in public if you’re feeling really frisky! It will certainly add a heightened sense of risk, which could ultimately increase your pleasure.
8. Sex Toys
Sex doesn’t have to only include our bodies. Some of the best orgasms are reached with sex toys and gadgets! There are toys that specifically cater to women and some that cater to men, but there are also some that are mutually beneficial. For women, try out all types of vibrators like rabbit vibrators, clitoral vibrators, bullet vibrators or finger vibrators. You can also mess around with all types of dildos. Men can purchase things such as rings, fleshlights and penis pumps. Couples can play together with bondage, couples’ vibrators, sex kits, tongue rings and more. Whichever toy(s) you choose to experiment with will exceed your expectations and will absolutely better your sex life 100%. Check out some items here from Adam and Eve!
9. Watch Porn Together
Another way to figure out how to increase pleasure in your sex life is to watch porn with your partner and decide which things get both of you hot and heavy. Sure, maybe it might be awkward to watch porn together at first, but knowing what gets each other off is a key conversation for your sex life. Plus, it’ll be fun to play around with each other. There are so many types of porn that you’re bound to never run out of ideas! Take some time before sex to watch, that way you can’t resist the temptation!
10. Explores Kinks & Fantasies
Chances are, your boo is into some things you might not know about. Open up the discussion about kinks and fantasies that you both have, that way you can try things out with one another. If you’re not sure what you’re into right off the bat, here’s a list of kinks to go through to see which ones call out your name. However, make sure everything is consensual, and do not participate in kinks and fantasies that are harmful to you or a certain demographic.