Have you ever gone through a breakup and then spent days afterward deciding whether or not you should continue to follow your ex on social media? Odds are you’ve been faced with this dilemma, so here are our thoughts on why you should not stay connected with your ex on social media.
They’ll be everywhere
Social media is a huge part of our lives, we use it every day, and are more connected on multiple platforms than ever before. And if you recently went through a breakup, chances are, the last thing you want to see is your ex’s face plastered everywhere you look.
You won’t be living in the present moment
Not only does seeing your ex’s face everywhere get annoying after a while, but staying connected on social media can also leave you living vicariously through your phone screen. It’s easy to want to keep tabs on your ex’s life and see how they’re doing without you. But watching your ex move on quicker than you can be painful, and continuing to follow your ex on social media will only keep you focused on what they’re doing without you, rather than what you should be doing to move on. So try and spare yourself the inevitable pain and unfollow them so that you can live your life!
You need to focus on yourself
The time spent after a break up should be all about taking care of yourself. Whether you ended the relationship or not, it still ended for a reason. It’s important to remind yourself of that, and remember that this time should be about being with yourself and realizing what you need in your future relationships.
Know that staying connected with your ex can make this process a lot more difficult because you may get caught up in continually checking to see what they’re up to, or even be tempted to reach out to them, but all of this just makes moving focusing on yourself that much harder.
You’ll get caught up in caring what they think about your post-breakup life
After a breakup, it’s really easy to want to look like you’re having the time of your life even when you may not be. And when you know your ex is still looking at everything you post online, you may feel more inclined to only post things hoping that it makes them jealous…but this is not a healthy way to cope.
Sure, posting all day, every day may sound like an excellent way to get over your ex and prove that you’re doing great without them by your side, but your social media content should be about sharing things that make you happy, not about impressing others. So rather than obsessing over whether they saw your latest Instagram story that day, or liked that selfie you posted, unfollow them because you could end up hurt all over again if they suddenly decide to stop paying attention.
You need to move on
Eventually, you really will be over your ex, and when that day comes, you don’t want your feed overflowing with images of them. And when you start dating someone new, you’ll want to shift your attention to your new relationship, not be constantly reminded of your old one.
All in all, handling relationships with exes after a break up can be confusing and difficult to navigate. If the two of you ended on good terms then unfollowing them on social media may not sound necessary. But the truth is if this person is no longer in your life physically, why should they be in your life virtually? Disconnecting with your ex will only make moving on that much easier. So go ahead, unfollow, unfriend, delete. I promise you’ll be better off.