Building a close relationship with your boyfriend is necessary for a healthy and happy relationship. Sometimes, expressing your emotions can be difficult. How do you show someone just how much you love and care for them? It can be hard to find a balance between showing you love and being completely overly clingy. Looking for ways to become closer and more affectionate? Here are some of the best ways to grow an intimate relationship with your boo.
Honesty is the number one rule in all relationships. I didn’t put this at the top of the list for no reason. If a relationship doesn’t have trust, it has nothing at all. Be open with each other. You can’t let someone into your heart if you don’t trust them, it’s just not healthy. You can’t sacrifice your mental health. If someone can’t be trusted, it’s probably best to let them go before worrying gets the best of you. We understand every relationship goes through its issues, but when trust is broken, well, it’s extremely hard to fix. So, just be honest. If you feel like you’re in a situation your boyfriend wouldn’t like you need to be honest with him about what you’re doing. You need to be honest with him about who you’re with or where you’re going. Even if he doesn’t like it, you will gain the respect from him for telling the truth. Nobody wants to be caught in a lie, that’s just embarrassing.
Every boyfriend wants to feel loved. Loved on a consistent level, not just when you feel you have the time to spare for him. If you’re not devoted to the relationship, why are you in it? You should take time out of your day every single day to make sure you’re supporting your man. Don’t leave those texts on read, don’t cancel a date due to too much stress. You need quality time together for your relationship to grow. A relationship needs consistent contact. Whether it’s long distance and you need to schedule FaceTime dates, or you live in the same town and simply need to clear more time in your schedule to see each other. I’m not saying to revolve every move you make around your boyfriend, but you need to clear up time each day to send him your love.
Be Silly Together
Being silly is so important and so fun. To be silly with your boyfriend, you’re able to completely be yourself. The best nights spent together are the ones when you just can’t stop laughing. You learn so much about someone by how they act around you. Is he a crack-jokes type of silly or a wrestle you and throw you over his shoulder type of silly? Does he make funny faces at you or tickle you ’till you can’t breathe? If he can make you laugh until you cry, he’s a keeper.
Love Yourself First
You can’t love anyone else until you love yourself first. You need to accept the fact that you’re not perfect (nobody is) before you share your heart with someone else. If you don’t know how great you are and how much you have to offer, you can’t expect to find someone worthy of what you deserve. You need to know how beautiful and amazing you are before you have someone there to tell you. Confidence is key, and if you can’t feel confident in yourself, how can your relationship grow?
Make More Memories
A problem with today’s world is that so many relationships just lay in bed on their phones or watching Netflix. They don’t get out and build real memories together. To have a close relationship with your man, you need to get out and experience the world together. Go on a hike, out to dinner, to the gym, really anywhere to get out of the house. By sharing these experiences you learn so much more about one another, besides just what their favorite TV series is. You’ll look back and remember these times and be so grateful for everything you two have done together.
Respect Each Other
R-e-s-p-e-c-t. You need to respect your boyfriend as if he was someone you just met. No matter how long you’ve been dating, you need to keep respect a priority in the relationship. Respect the way he feels about certain situations, respect his family, his property, and most importantly respect his feelings. Even if you don’t agree with something, if you love him you’ll respect him for who he is.
Make a Bucket List
Making a bucket list together is a great idea to build your relationship. Make a bucket list, however long or short you please, and fill it up with places to go, foods to try, road trips to go on, workouts to do or concerts to go to. Not only will this help you build memories, but it will add some excitement into the relationship and give you events to look forward to. A twist you can put on the bucket list is a goals list. Write down the goals you have for the relationship and check them off as you go. Some of these goals can include meet each other’s families, go on vacation together or get a massage together. A goal list is a more general version of a bucket list.
In a relationship, you’ll learn what it means to sacrifice something. You need to show your boyfriend how much he means to you and keep him at the top of your list. Say he invited you to a family party on the same day as a party all of your friends are having, but you haven’t gotten the time to know his relatives. Even if you were looking forward to partying the night away with your BFFs, you should sit this one out and spend the time with him and his family. It will mean the world to him, and next time he’s in that situation he’s sure to choose you.
Give Each Other Space
Even though you want to spend 24/7 with your boo, you shouldn’t. You need to each have your own lives on top of your time together. Don’t cancel on your friends every day because you can’t be away from him. Don’t call out of work or skip class so you can spend a few extra hours being with him. You need to focus on you and live your life, but of course add him into it. Being together without any space will only lead to fights and frustrations. Nobody can spend that much time together and be perfectly healthy, so take some time for yourself, for your girlfriends, and to grind out some good grades!
Couples need to communicate with each other. Communication is key to a healthy relationship. If you’re feeling upset with something, express it to him. If you’re so happy and love something he did, tell him. If you’re completely mad and about to lose it, tell him. He can’t read your mind no matter how much you wish he could. He can’t tell what you’re thinking by the way you look at him, guys don’t notice those things. Use your words. It will save you so much stress if you just tell him straight up how you’re feeling!
Keep these in mind everyday. Relationships can’t be built over night! Take steps each day towards working on a happy and healthy relationship. Let us know below your thoughts!
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Kenley Stevenson grew up on Long Island, New York. Being a short train ride from New York City, opportunities for her to create and grow were endless. Now, she is currently a junior English/Journalism major at the University of New Hampshire. On top of Society19, she also write articles for Trill! Magazine. She has a huge passion for food, fashion, and anything related to today’s pop culture, and hopes to spend her future writing about it.