Guys, it’s a new year! Therefore, it feels like a great excuse to try new and exciting things in order to spice up your existing sex life in the bedroom (or wherever you prefer). It starts with two minds combined into one, because lets face it – your partner cant be enticed to last longer without you both contributing. Here’s 10 tips on how to make him last longer in bed, because let’s be real – you need it.
1. Foreplay, the most important word in the history of sex!
You cant bake a cake without some prep! It’s about putting in the work and building up to that craved moment, the whole reason we have sex in the first place, and you know exactly what I am talking about. So focus on more foreplay aspects, seek out what he likes, and use it to your advantage because anyone will try to last their longest at anything if they are having a good time doing it!
2. Practice makes perfection!
Repetition by doing the same thing over and over again is enough to make any guy learn to last. For example, if you did the same squat routine everyday, eventually you would not only reach those gains, but need to up your weight! If you practice the same routine over and over, eventually he’ll be improving with each stage and you’ll be able to add in some extra moves to spice things up! It’s getting back to the basics that can do wonders for you both. This also demonstrates patience and practice with a partner, meaning you can both work vigorously on yourselves.
3. Switch it up
Sometimes switching it up it brings much needed breaks for when it all gets too hot and heavy. A new routine is great for guys, as it also gives them a chance to have a break from the norm and focus on just having fun. So, if you’re wondering how to make him last longer in bed, try out something new! This way, you can do some experimentation in the bedroom where needed.
4. Take your time, its not a race
Not everything in life is a race, and sex shouldn’t be one. Learn to make him lasting longer in bed by taking it slow and set a steady pace for you both to follow. It also gives a sex a more meaningful setting, and isn’t something in which you both race to see who finishes first! Instead this will be more sensual and erotic, which is always fun.
What I mean by this is use condoms, yes, they do protect from unwanted pregnancy and STD’s, but they also help men take their time and slow down their pace. Condoms are a great source for many reasons and they sometimes are great for men when it comes to lasting longer, especially for those who experience ‘pre ejaculation’ issues.
6. Confidence is key!
Sometimes men need to feel sexy and in the mood as well. To many’s surprise, men too also stress, and this can harbour their performance in making them last. Even talking beforehand about what he wants can help. In addition, having a conversation can also create a bonding experience that aids in *ding ding ding* LONGER SEX!
7. Don’t overthink it
Sometimes there’s a lot going on upstairs and not enough going on downstairs. This is one of the biggest killers when it comes to longer lasting sex, or even lasting in the first place. By overthinking on the current position, you both aren’t paying enough attention to being within the moment. Try and calm his thoughts by talking about it openly. This anxiety will only grow, and the best way to get over it and have a good time is to deal with the problem before it begins to cause issues.
8. Research new techniques for him
First things first, understand that you are you and he is himself, therefore you might be asking for him to go deeper or faster, but that might not be what he wants. Instead, research and learn techniques that you both can control the rhythm too. An example could be how fast you’re going! By alternating speeds (a.k.a slowing and speeding up) means a delayed reaction and ultimately, a way of how to make him last longer.
9. Why do nice guys finish last?
For once how about letting the ladies (or your partner whatever your sexual preference) have a go first? Isn’t the phrase that nice guys finish last a motto you want to at least begin to believe in 2018? In relation to helping guys last longer, some guys do actually feel that they want to satisfy their partner before they do themselves. This in return is great as it doesn’t aid in sex lasting forever. After all, sex is a two way street.
10. Use de-sensitizers, a playful object
Sometimes the aid of an outside object can make all the difference in how to make him last longer. The use of de-sensitizers are what they define as local anesthetics in the sex industry. It may not be for everyone, but its actually beneficial in slowing him down, allowing him to last longer, and can help with pre-ejaculation! Obviously, always do your research first or experiment with a trusted partner to see if this is something that you both could benefit from!