Finding a new partner can be both exciting and somewhat intimidating. If you’ve got a great chemistry and you’re really into one another, things will inevitably lead to sex. To make sure that both of you can enjoy it without any repercussions or regrets, it’s important to take certain things into consideration. We have put together a list of 10 important rules that you should follow if you’re having sex with someone new. This way, you’ll be able to get the most out of the experience and continue developing an intimate bond with your new partner.
1. Bring protection
This may sound obvious, but everyone seems to forget this very simple rule. Even though you should expect your partner to have some ready, this does not mean that you should rely on them 100%. It’s a shared responsibility that both of you have to consider. The last thing you want to be doing is having unprotected sex!
2. Do your best to relax
Obviously sex is, for the most part, very spontaneous, so you wouldn’t know in advance when and where you’re going to do it. Regardless, chilling out before a promising date is a good way to prepare yourself for what’s to come. Just do whatever makes you relax the most! That way you’ll feel your best and be able to get the most out of the intimacy.
3. Be confident
When it comes down to it, you have to make sure that you’re comfortable with everything that’s going on. Don’t be afraid to speak out and let your partner know if there’s anything you’d like changed. At the same time, don’t forget to make clear what things you do like. That way you’ll both have a fantastic experience that you’d like to return to over and over again.
4. Tell them what you like in bed
Communication is an important step when having sex with someone new. If you take time to tell your partner about the things that have worked best for you in the past, you’re guaranteed to have a more exciting time.
5. Don’t talk about past lovers
I know I said that talking is important, but you have to be careful about what you say. It’s unlikely that your partner will enjoy listening to you talk about your previous sexual experiences in great detail. They may feel as though you’re drawing parallels between them and the others that you’ve hooked up with, which will only lead to soured feelings. Try to put yourself in their shoes and imagine how you would feel if they talked about certain things – this way you’ll never say something wrong again!
6. Stop thinking about how you look
One sure way to ruin all of the enjoyment that comes from sex is by worrying too much about your appearance. Your partner is already clearly attracted to you, so there’s no need to fret over what you look like in bed. Just don’t forget this rule and you’ll be able to make the most out of your intimacy!
7. Wear your best lingerie
The last thing you want is to realise that you’re wearing that awful pair of undies! Wearing something that makes you feel comfortable is a fantastic way to boost your happiness and overall confidence. What’s more, you want to look your best, and what better way to do so than to wear gorgeous lingerie.
8. Avoid excessive amounts of alcohol
Regardless of where you’re going on a date, make sure that you’re careful about the amount of alcohol that you drink. You really don’t want to be feeling drunk (or even worse, sick!) by the time you get to the bedroom. That will ruin the experience for everyone involved.
9. Have some water at hand
Sex is quite a physically demanding experience, so it’s likely that either one or both of you will get thirsty at some point during the act. The last thing you want is you frantically scrambling around the room and looking for something to drink. Just take the simple precaution of pouring out some water for the two of you before you really get things going.
10. Don’t just leave when it’s over
This is definitely one of the most important rules when you are having sex with someone new. Not only is it extremely rude, but it’s also terribly awkward if you leave right after you finish. It’s important to let your partner know that you’ve had a great time and just share a few kind words with them.