So, it’s your first time having sex? You’ve probably heard a lot of things about your first time and it’s got you feeling nervous. I don’t blame you. Sex, especially the first time is hyped up into this scary, confusing thing. Here are ten tips to help you relax and enjoy this experience.
There’s Nothing To Be Afraid Of
People hype up the first time but really it’s nothing special. Well, it is special but we’ll get into that later. All sex is is two consenting people sharing their bodies. Hey, that’s not the best description of it but that’s all I got kid.
Be Absolutely Sure This Is What You Want
You must be sure that sex is what you want with another person. If you don’t want it and you end up doing it, you might feel feelings of regret and that’s not what sex is about. It’s about having fun.
Be Absolutely Sure This Is Who You Want To Experience It With
Depending on how high you’ve put the first time on a pedestal, your standards for who you share this experience with should be higher. Remember when I said it’s not that special, well in a way, it is. Sex is a physical as well as an emotional connection with someone. It’s true! Oxytocin is a hormone that is released during sex that causes the emotional attachment you have with the person. You don’t want to have an attachment with the wrong person, trust me.
The only way that your first time will go smoothly is if you both communicate. If something feels good, say it! If something doesn’t feel good, definitely say it! If you keep your mouth shut you’ll never learn what your body likes and doesn’t like, not to mention, it’ll be an unpleasant time for the both of you.
You Don’t Have To Be A Master At It
Don’t google porn videos and try to emulate what they do. It’s your first time. You’re expected not to know what to do. The first time is a learning experience, take advantage of it.
It’s Not Like The Movies
You know how in the movies the man is on top and the woman orgasms every single time. It’s not like that at all. The physical feelings of sex is different every time even if you’ve been with a person for years.
It May Or May Not Hurt
This is the number one question everyone has: will it hurt? Well, it depends on your body to be honest. Some people feel a little pain and some don’t.If you do feel some pain, it will get better every time you have sex afterwards.
Use protection! STD’s are not fun! Unplanned pregnancies are not fun!
You’re Still The Same Person After It’s All Said And Done
The stigma and pressure regarding virginity is pretty bad. Some say you aren’t “pure” after your first time. You aren’t getting into heaven. You’re unclean. You should have waited until your wedding night. Let me tell you something: after your first time do you know what happens? Nothing. You are still Jane Whatsherface from St. Olaf Minnesota. You are still worthy of love afterwards. You are not less than because you chose to be intimate someone. You are not dirty because you liked it. You are you.
After all of this, just remember to enjoy it. There might be some awkwardness and confusion because it’s your first time but don’t sweat it, just have fun!