You had your life planned out, you had the love of your life standing by your side and you were excited for what your future holds. Then, life happens. To get over heartbreak is a real process, and one that is a huge struggle. But, to move on from someone you thought you would be with forever? That’s even harder. There’s no easy way to get over this, but there are ways which can help. Here are some small steps you can take to help move on from someone you thought you would be with forever.
1. Accept It
If it’s meant to be, it will be. If you were supposed to be with that person, then you would be. Everything happens for a reason. The first step, and one of the hardest steps you’ll have to take is accepting it. Yes, it’s really happening (but it’s going to be ok). Once you’ve accepted it, you can only go onwards and upwards from there.
2. Let Yourself Feel Whatever You Want To Feel
If you wanna’ be sad, then be sad. If you wanna’ feel sorry for yourself, then feel sorry for yourself. If you wanna’ throw yourself on the floor and cry, then throw yourself on the floor and cry. Let yourself feel however you want to feel, don’t bottle things up and make it worse for yourself. Take it step by step and be honest with how you feel, with yourself and the people around you.
3. Let Go
Ok, so – the next hardest step. After you’ve accepted it has actually happened, then it’s time to try and let go of the situation and your ex-partner. I’m not saying you have to totally forget about them (because that would be impossible), but you need to let go of whatever you’re still clinging onto (and I know you are). I’m not saying it’s going to be easy, because it isn’t. It’ll be tough, but it is a necessary step to move on.
4. Surround Yourself With Family And Friends
Friends and family are your biggest support system. They will be there for you when you can’t be there for yourself. They can comfort you and tell you everything is going to be ok (which it is). These are the people who are going to help build you back up again. They’re there for you, no matter what. Talk to them, cry with them or let them be your distraction. Why not start new hobbies together? You don’t have to go through it alone.
5. Learn How To Be Ok On Your Own
Even though you’ve got family and friends to help you along the way, the only person that’s truly going to fix that broken heart of yours is yourself. You’re so used to being around someone, and having someone there basically 24/7. You need to learn how to be ok on your own. Take time out for yourself, do whatever makes you happy. Why don’t you start something new? Push yourself out of your comfort zone. Read an uplifting book? Run a red hot bubble bath? If those little things don’t work, try running or a yoga class – something to really clear the mind and relax the body.
6. Find Yourself
Within the madness of it all, you might find yourself getting lost and forgetting who you actually are. A big part of a break up is finding out exactly who you are without that person by your side. You might find that you’re exactly the same, and you’re the person you always thought you were. But if not, you might find you’re learning things about yourself you didn’t already know. There is a massive amount of strength in realising this, and finding out who you truly are.