How someone breaks things off with you really says a lot about them as a person. You would think people would have the courtesy to be honest and upfront about how they’re feeling, but unfortunately so many have the same breakup lines that they use on everyone. Men suck, period. If any guy has used any of these lines on you before then he most likely just wanted an easy out of the relationship.
1. “It’s not you, it’s me.”
Seriously could you come up with anything less cliché? I mean it most likely was you that caused it, but have more compassion in your heart to say something that’s heartfelt and kind. It’s sad because guys can be in a relationship for years and then use this line as an easy out. If your partner really meant anything to you, then have the courtesy to sit down and talk with them without using this overused breakup line. I think they literally use this on every TV show and movie breakup scene and it needs to stop.
2. “We work better as friends, but I’ll always be there for you.”
I feel like when a guy says “let’s just be friends”, he still wants the physical parts of the relationship, but without the label and acknowledgment of an actual relationship. He’s wasting your time and you shouldn’t even bother staying friends with him. He’ll probably still hit you up every Saturday at 2 A.M. and expect you to come crawling back to him. He wants you to stick around in his life, but basically, he wants to have the ability to screw other girls at the same time…gross.
3. “Sorry, but I’m just not ready to be in a relationship.”
This one is the worst! If you weren’t ready for a relationship then why waste a girl’s time? Guys are too afraid of commitment to say they’re in a relationship even if they’ve been hanging out with the same girl for ages. I feel like guys also say this even if they’re the ones that literally pursued having a relationship with you first. If you weren’t ready for a relationship at first then don’t lead someone on for months or years…it’s just not cool.
4. “I just need to focus on myself.”
Just be honest and say that you just don’t want to be in a relationship with that specific person anymore. 90% of guys who say this end up 2 weeks later with a new girlfriend which pretty much defeats the purpose of focusing on yourself. Sadly guys say this line all too often as just an easy way out. If you really do want to focus on yourself then truly do that, but don’t lie about it when you just are looking for a line to get out of the relationship.
5. “I think it’s best if we see other people.”
This really means that he wants to see other people so you might as well do the same. Honestly, this breakup line isn’t the worse if it’s at the start of a relationship and you also add more context as to why you don’t see the relationship working out. However if someone uses this when they’ve been dating someone for a really long time, the person deserves more of an explanation. Also if he uses this line he may already be seeing other people and is just looking for an out to justify his actions.
6. “I just need space.”
Translation: He doesn’t want to say the exact words that he’s breaking up with you, but he still is. He doesn’t just want space from you for a week; he wants it forever. Just admit it if you are done with the relationship instead of giving the other person false hope that the relationship will still work out. Your definition of needing space is probably different from your partner’s so clarify what you’re saying. This line is so vague and unspecific.
7. “You deserve someone better.”
He’s really just trying to soften the blow and make it seem like he genuinely doesn’t feel like he deserves you. In reality, he just doesn’t want to be with you anymore and wants to say that in the nicest way possible. This isn’t the worst breakup line that exists but it’s kind of a cliche at this point and it’s best to just be honest about why you feel like the relationship should end. They do deserve better but don’t make the other person pity you.
8. “We’re too different.”
No one can be exactly alike so of course, people are going to be different. When he says this he probably means that he doesn’t really appreciate and love you for who you are. You deserve better than anyone who tells you this line. You will find someone who knows that you two have your differences, but they will look past that and use it as a tool to discover more about each other.
9. “We need to take a break.”
“Taking a break” will just end up with you having your heartbroken all over again. He’s just trying to string you along and make you wait until he figures out what he wants which probably won’t be the relationship. You shouldn’t spend your time waiting around for him to tell you that he wants you. If a guy wants to be with you, he will and you shouldn’t have to take a break from the relationship for him to decide that.
10. “I love you, I’m just not in love with you anymore.”
What he really means is that he likes you as a friend, but he doesn’t see himself with you anymore and he just doesn’t have the guts to say that. It’s more hurtful to hear this line from someone than just being honest that you just don’t see the relationship going anywhere. Don’t hurt the other person more than you most likely already have.
So you may be wondering now, how is the right way to break up with someone? I would say to avoid using any of these lines unless you provide context and just to be honest with the other person. Confrontation is hard, but I would rather hear the truth than another one of these stupid lines.
Have you ever had someone use one of these breakup lines on you? Let us know in the comments below?
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Caitlyn is a third-year student at UCLA. She is majoring in English. She enjoys writing, and going to hot yoga classes and, of course, binge-watching Netflix. At UCLA, Caitlyn is a feature writer for HER Campus, part of the American Cancer Society club, and a member of Alpha Gamma Delta.