The transition between high school and college has never been an easy one for me to grasp. People described the transition as a new beginning, but I viewed it as the end. It’s not that I wanted to stay in high school it’s that I feared growing up. I feared responsibilities, not being able to make friends, living alone, but what scared me the most was everything not being routine. I had lived my life by the book for 18 years and I feared change. I had to figure out how to cope with change because once I did that I wouldn’t have to worry about things ending. Keep reading to find out how I discovered another way to look at things ending.
I eventually did learn to cope with “the end.”
I did this by viewing this part of my life as my own personal life therapy. I realized that college was a time to try new things and find out who I am as a person. I also realized that all the people I would be leaving behind would be there for me when I came home. Distance can only test friendships, it can’t end them. People end relationships, distance only makes them harder. Once I realized this, I was at peace with leaving because I knew the relationships I built were strong enough to last a lifetime. I also realized that if I stopped talking to someone because of distance, the relationship obviously wasn’t that important.
After I accepted the fact that I would be able to maintain my friendships, I worried about my maturity. I didn’t feel ready to move out and live on my own.
I didn’t know how to cook meals, I could barely get out of bed on my own, and I definitely didn’t know how to do laundry. As a kid who moves into college soon the whole concept of “living alone” scared me. Then I realized that I shouldn’t be scared, I should be optimistic and ready to tackle change. I realized the only way I was going to learn to be independent and mature was to put myself in situations to do so. College was the perfect opportunity.
College isn’t the end of your childhood, it’s the beginning of your life story.
College is stressful and change is hard but in the end, I realized that it all will be worth it. I learned to value my time with people and be optimistic about what’s to come. My childhood didn’t end, my reluctant attitude to change did.