Lip balm out! It’s time for tips and tricks for an amazing makeout sesh. Let’s be honest, we all aim to be the world’s best kisser, but sometimes it can be a little cringe. If you’re stumbling into roadblocks, then it’s high time for a few changes.
Don’t Jump Into It
Easy now, cowboy. Ideally, you guys have the whole night, so what’s the rush? Diving headfirst into things can put pressure on what otherwise would be an enjoyable atmosphere. Foreplay isn’t just about building anticipation, it’s also about setting quiet boundaries and developing trust. You two are learning about each other. In order to set a good rhythm, you must start at the start. Just enjoy things and let it happen.
Go With The Flow
It’s important to feel things out every step of the way. A good vibe check will point you in the right direction if you follow your gut. You always want to be able to read your partner, whether they’re ready to pump the brakes or floor it. This not only makes them more comfortable with you, but it also deepens your connection. Isn’t that what it’s all about?
Try Not To Get Tongue-Tied
French kissing always looks easier than it seems, and that can lead to a lot of problems. Tip: try moving slowly. Having a frenzied, “stabbing” tongue suddenly choking you out is no fun. Let your tongues move in a way that feels good for both of you. Use more tongue gradually – not all at once. You don’t want to butt heads or teeth. Besides, getting to know how your partner feels about the tongue is essential. They might like a little, they might like a lot. Whatever you do, don’t aim for the throat.
It’s OK To Be A Tease
Tease, tease, tease! There’s nothing better for steaming things up. As a rule, everything should be done in moderation, but if there’s one part of the playground where teasing is fair game, this is it. Excite your partner. Use that sexy self-confidence to rile them up a little. This works especially in cases where your partner is shy, passive, or uncertain about what to do. Get them involved with a few gentle tugs and rolls of the hips. They’ll catch a hint.
Vampires don’t get their reputation for just any reason. The neck is the most vulnerable area of the human body. They’re not just posing when they show you it, they’re inviting you. So take advantage of it! Kiss every part of it – their pulse, their throat, their collar, etc. They’ll appreciate it, as most people do. It’s rare to find someone who isn’t interested in neck-play. This a safe, sexy move with a hint of danger.
Us women love to look at a man’s jawline, but do we give it the attention it deserves? It’s not only a hot feature, but it’s also especially sensitive. Just like the neck, kissing and nipping their jaw will send spicy tingles down their spine – especially that spot just under the jawbone. Getting close to the earlobe can also spark fireworks. Try adding some tongue and nibbles and see what happens. It’s fun to experiment. Plus, if they have facial hair, nuzzling their soft, fuzzy bears feels so nice!
God gave you two hands for a reason, so don’t be afraid to use them! Start with the basics – hair, face, neck, and if they’re comfortable with it, try a little lower. Rest your hands on their chest. Sneak an arm around their waist. Explore their lower back. The back and spine are the perfect playing grounds for sensual touches. A little massage here and there will go a long way. If they’re not comfortable going under the clothes, then try experimenting with neutral areas. Tug them closer by the shirt or tie. Remember, the hands are powerful tools.
A little nibble here and there never hurt – and if it does, who knows! Maybe they’re into that. Being bitey is a surefire way to spice things up. As a rule, you’ll want to play this gently. This is a risky move because a lot of people can be turned off by a bite that is too hard. But if you know your date well enough and are reading the vibes right, this will work in your favor. Give them a burst of sensation. A soft nip on their lower lip, jaw, neck or even earlobe can make your partner purr.
The last place you want to leave your hands is at your sides. Keep them moving! Once your arms are dead, the moment’s dead. Don’t be afraid to explore! Let your hands wander. Touch their shoulders, run your fingers through their hair, wrap your arms around their waist, grasp their neck, or knot your fingers around the back of their head. Most importantly, you want your partner to know you’re into them, so be engaged. Talk with body language.
Take It Easy
Intermissions aren’t always boring. In fact, they can be quite stimulating for moments like this. Cradle their jaw and just rests your heads together, breathing in and out. Relish the moment. Share some intense eye contact. Lace your fingers together. Whisper soft endearments. Ride the waves, whether they are high or low. Foreplay is, after all, about building anticipation. You’re not going to upset them by taking things down a notch. If anything, it will just make the night last longer.
You don’t have to be a hot dominatrix mama to get their attention. Subtle moves will have them wondering who the hell body-snatched you and how soon y’all can get married. Rest your hand at the nape of their neck and gently direct them. Take their hand and place it wherever you want it. Straddle their lap and set the pace on your own terms. If he’s into it, you’ll blow his mind. If anything, you’ll challenge him to assert his own dominance. Before you know it, you’ll be waking up with the best sex hair ever.
Believe In Yourself!
Confidence is sexy. You don’t have to be an expert at kissing to be confident about it. Besides, think of how excited your partner is about you. Do you think they would be this turned on for no reason? It’s all you, baby. You’ve got the power here. Take a little control. Make a move. Now isn’t the time to wonder if they want you – now is the time to find out how much.
Do you think you’re a good kisser? What’s the best kiss you’ve ever had? Tongue or no tongue? Tell us your opinions in the comments below!
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