You’ve finally got him all to yourself and now you want to make him forget about every woman before you. You refuse to be compared to other women from his past. In fact, if something goes wrong you want to be the unforgettable basis on which he compares all future girlfriends. Keep his focus on you by making him forget about every woman before you.
Don’t Rush Into The Relationship
Make it clear from the beginning you are not a fling by holding off on sex until you see potential for a relationship. Even when you become exclusive, take the relationship stages slowly. This means you will have to limit your time with him. Continue to live your own life and allow him to live his. By taking the relationship slowly, you are prolonging certain stages so your bond strengthens. Have you ever seen couple that have been dating two months and they are already bickering and having dramatic meltdowns? What in the world do they have to fight about this early in the game? This is a sign of too much, too soon. Don’t be that couple! Keep things light and fun. Slow down and enjoy your relationship blooming slowly. Going too fast to the point arguments are happening will have your man calling his ex for advice just like that.
Be Your Authentic Self
While it is tempting to put on your best face and behavior, if you really want him to forget about every woman before you- resist! Do not pretend to be something you are not. No one likes a bait and switch tactic. How many times in a relationship have you said, “You’ve changed”? How many times has someone said that to you? You may be worried what he will think of your strange eating habits or your obsession with Britney circa 2000. However, these little quirks are what make you different than anyone else. You are a unique individual with amazing qualities and quirks to share. Sure, he may tease you a bit but these are the things that make you stand out. Being yourself also will make him more comfortable around you. It gives him the green light to be his true authentic self and everyone loves being around those they feel safe to do so. Besides, you don’t want to waste your time and effort holding back and pretending to be something you are not. More often than not, men will see right through that and it will make them feel uneasy. If there is something you are shy about, be shy about it but at least be cute in doing so.
Commanding respect is quite different than demanding respect. Telling someone to respect you is being demanding and without validation. Being someone respectable and returning respect to others is allowing people to respect you by their own volition. You can do this first by respecting your own morals and values and not compromising them for any reason. Draw boundaries early on and allow natural consequences to follow if they are crossed. For instance, if you ask him not to call or text you during work or when you are studying and he does, then do not cave and answer his calls. He will get the picture and you will have commanded his respect for your priorities. If he continues to push the boundaries, it’s a pretty good sign he is used to getting his way. Change these bad habits by standing your ground. He isn’t used to a strong woman who respects herself. Give him a taste of what it takes to be with you and he will definitely forget about every woman before you.
Stop Being Jealous
Confident women do not get jealous of other women. Confident women don’t think they are better than other women either. Men view catty behavior as a major turnoff. It is very likely every woman before you acted out on her feelings of jealousy, so don’t. Embrace his female friends and try to befriend them yourself. Expect them to act a little overprotective of him at first, but that is a natural response. You can handle it. Wait out any resistance on their part and eventually you will show them and your man that you are indeed different than previous girlfriends. Don’t talk negatively about other women around him either. He will think you are insecure and that is just not attractive. Also, you may be inadvertently stirring up an interest in the women that didn’t exist before. If you want him to forget about every woman before you, be confident that you are the woman that can.
If he is going to forget about every other woman before you, he has to trust you. Be honest with him even if the truth is going to upset him. Even little white lies are unnecessary. If you don’t like his shirt, tell him. You don’t have to be mean, but you can use humor to soften the blow. Have you noticed men don’t lie to men about things like this? Does it effect their friendship? Nope. So why even bother? You want him to expect truth from you in any situation. If he asks you something about your past that you don’t want to share, then simply say you don’t talk about things like that. This goes back to commanding respect and drawing boundaries. He does not need to know who you have slept with before him. No need to lie either, just say it is an off limits topic and move on. In turn, don’t ask him about things you don’t feel comfortable talking about. Being honest does not mean you have to be an open book. However, if he is asking you about something that has occurred while you were dating then honesty is always the best policy.
Make Sex Unforgettable
Chances are, if you have done the above mentioned advice on how to make him forget about every woman before you then you are probably already having unforgettable sex. The best sex doesn’t have to be wild and crazy. The best sex comes when you have a strong bond with someone you trust and feel completely comfortable with. That doesn’t mean it is okay to be boring. The key is to mix up crazy, wild sex with the sweet vanilla sex. Don’t show him all your cards at once. Allow the kinky sex to develop with your relationship and fulfill one fantasy at a time, over time. Just remember that one of men’s biggest complaints is how the sex started off great and slowly went downhill. Keep a few tricks in your reserve and gradually let him learn of them. Be sure to try things neither of you have before and he will lock you in his memory forever. Don’t be stingy with the oral sex! It seems that goes to the wayside for a lot of women after a certain time in the relationship has passed. Always keep communication about sex open so that you both are getting the most pleasurable experience from each other.
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essica Hope Murphy is a student at Ashford University studying English and Journalism & Mass Communications. If she isn't writing, she is fishing, cooking, or entertaining friends. In addition to Society19, her work can be found on Points In Case, Cracked Mirrors Online, LinkedIn, Murphy Review, and in The National Library of Poetry.