When dating today, we tend to run into two kinds of guys: husband material and the worst… The fuck boy. There has to be at least one encounter in your life that has left you high and dry where you probably had wished things could have worked out. Their charm and good looks had you fooled along with many others in your situationship. However, I’m here to tell you… Two can play at that game. It might seem like it is impossible to make a fuck boy change his ways but here are a couple tips that’ll make him reconsider:
1. Don’t give in to his games
When it comes to dating, fuck boys initially have the upper hand. They have the power to swoon you into catching feelings but they also play it smart by never defining the terms of the situationship. One day it’s “just casual” and then the next you’re doodling ‘Mrs. Fuck Boy’ on your notebooks. Then the moment you give into addressing those feelings, they pull the greatest disappearing act of the century: ghosting.
DON’T GIVE IN. If you knew the guy was a reputable fuck boy from the start or he has shown clear tendencies you wish you could overlook, trust your gut. Play it smart and don’t fall for what could seem like your perfect soulmate. Instead of playing his game with his rules, make it your game too with mutual rules.
2. Always make it seem like he’s just another option
If there’s one thing that makes a fuck boy insecure, it’s the idea that he could possibly be sharing you. Fuck boys like to be in control and always #1. If he feels like he’s competing then he’ll do what he can to win. It’s the competitive nature in this group of boys. They don’t want any other fuck boy to earn bragging rights. It keeps them on their toes and always has them constantly worried about what you are doing.
3. Don’t try to be their girlfriend from the start
Fuck boys tend to retreat when they sense you want something more. Their intentions are typically to fuck you and entertain you until they’re bored. If you’re suggesting they meet your family or making plans for the long term, they will immediately just disappoint you. Instead, be cool and take it day by day. Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve.
4. Don’t be confrontational about his tendencies
When you see that fuckboy in public and they are acting like they weren’t sleeping in your bed a couple nights ago, don’t get emotional or impulsive. You confronting him about his tendencies will only give him a reason to ghost.
In this situation, you need to make your presence known. You could either walk by him and reciprocate that same treatment by ignoring him or you could approach him, say hello in a non-flirtatious way, and just walk away. Instead of being all over him or going off on him, it’ll leave him curious as to why you’re so calm even if on the inside, you’re moments away from throwing a drink in his face.
5. After-hour hangouts = opportunity
I know that it probably drives you crazy that the only time he has time for you is during the night even though you have insisted he meet your friends or went on more day dates. You need to use that time to your leverage. Even if it’s small statements about who you are, at least he’s getting to know you. Who knows, your personality could really be a match.
6. Reciprocate his energy
Ultimately you want to treat him the way he treats you. If you feel like he’s only in it for the sex, then make it seem like you’re also only in it for the sex. If you treat him like a piece of meat that has nothing else to offer, he’ll feel confused and degraded. It’ll have him questioning why you’re not like the other girls who typically fall for his gimmicks.
7. Be a strong and confident individual
I know it sounds cliche but it’ll turn him on knowing that you have your own life that doesn’t revolve around waiting on him to text back. When you’re out doing your own thing it’ll show him that with or without him, you’re thriving either way.
The last thing a fuck boy wants is someone clinging to his every move. They enjoy their freedom to do whatever they want and you should too.
8. Don’t be so persistent that it becomes overwhelming
When you’re triple texting him or actively trying to make plans to hang out, he’ll get the impression that you’re getting too attached. It gives him yet another reason to dispose of you. When communicating with him, you don’t want to come off as clingy. As mentioned before, reciprocate his energy. Be cool, calm, and collected.
9. Be yourself
Don’t go formulating an idea of who you think his dream woman is. You’re only going to lose yourself trying to become that woman. Instead, show him what makes you unique. With a stellar personality that’s unforgettable, it’ll make it hard for him to keep envisioning you as “just another hook up”.
10. Know your worth and find a genuine man who’s worth your time
My last tip might be contradicting everything I just said but if the fuck boy of your dreams is putting you through a roller coaster ride that’s no longer fun anymore just drop it. There are a plethora of guys who are husband material out there that won’t make you feel the need to change them.
Once you find that guy (or that guy finds you) imagine how much of a blow it would be to all the fuck boys who had the opportunity to have a gem like you. I know how thrilling and challenging fuck boys could be but you’re better off being with a man who knew your worth from the start.