Trying to work on yourself and being the best you can be? Sometimes reading self-help books are a great way to inspire yourself especially if you are feeling insecure and unconfident. I’ve compiled a list of the 10 best self-help books that you can find!
1. “You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living An Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero
Oftentimes people don’t go after what they want because they keep doubting themselves and their abilities. In this book, Jen Sincero gives some advice, stories, and exercises to help you garner more self-confidence to achieve your goals. This novel will also help you understand your strengths and weaknesses more. Sincero gives advice on how to work on your weaknesses and finally start going after your goals.
2. “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov
Wondering why men lose interest in the nice girls way too fast? Argov explains in her book why men are more attracted to a strong woman or as she claims “the bitch” instead of the nice girl who agrees to everything all the time. This book shows women how to take control in their relationships and not just stand by why men take the lead. Men desire women who say what they think and don’t sacrifice themselves just to show off to a man. Argov’s book is hilarious and she provides a ton of her own examples from her life to make the book even more compelling.
3. “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life” by Mark Manson
I don’t know how many times people have told me to just be more “positive.” Or if you’re more positive, you’ll just be happier. Well in his book Mark Manson throws the idea that you need to be more positive away and instead says that life isn’t about “turning lemons into lemonade but on learning to stomach lemons better.” We have to accept the things that come into our life no matter if they are good or bad. Confronting difficult situations gives us strength and power. I mean there are only so many things in life that we can give a f**k about so Mark Manson says we must decide the ones that really matter.
4. “The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are” by Brené Brown
Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston and has written several books and done TED talks on courage, vulnerability, and empathy. As humans, it is so easy to want to fit in with others and be what others want you to be. In Brown’s book, she talks about how we have to embrace our true selves and stop listening to what society is telling us to act like. If you need a boost of self-esteem, this book is definitely for you. So often we feel the need to be “perfect”, but Brown tells us to let go of that idea and start living a “perfectly imperfect” life. Personally, I struggle with accepting myself for all my flaws and imperfections. Brown tries to cultivate more self-worth and self-love through her novel.
5. “The Art of Self-Discipline: Beat Procrastination, Break Bad Habits, and Achieve Your Goals” by Kimberly Olson PhD
College students oftentimes struggle with staying focused and not procrastinating on studying. Self-discipline is an important quality to have because it helps you gain more self-confidence and also start achieving what you want in life. In this book, Olson gives strategies on how to get organized through things like time and money management and taking care of your personal health. She gives simple advice on how to overcome procrastination and tap into your best self.
6. “The Loneliness Companion: A Practical Guide for Improving Your Self-Esteem and Finding Comfort in Yourself” by Shrein H. Bahrami
A lot of people are afraid of actually being alone. They feel depressed and frustrated when it is just them with their own thoughts. However, in Bahrami’s book, she suggests that being alone doesn’t have to be lonely. Being alone can help you connect and appreciate yourself more. The book also gives ways of finding comfort and a community in the modern world because it can be challenging. Bahrami also shares advice for single people on how to heal from their past relationships and have a more positive approach to dating in the future.
7. “The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Healing from a Breakup or Divorce” by Rachel Sussman
Going through a breakup is a grieving process. You just lost someone that was once so important in your life and suddenly they are gone. Whether you ended the relationship or the other person did, breakups are still very heartbreaking and hard to cope with. In this book, Rachel Sussman, a psychotherapist, gives 3 stages on how to process a breakup. Through healing, understanding, and transformation, Sussman hopes that this process will help you get your life on track after a tough breakup and prepare you in the future to enter into a new relationship.
8. “Struggle Well: Thriving in the Aftermath of Trauma” by Ken Falke and Josh Goldberg
Everyone is always facing a challenge in their life whether that be with battling anxiety, depression, addiction, or something else. Oftentimes we tend to succumb to the struggle and be completely overwhelmed by it. In this book, Ken Falke and Josh Goldberg discuss how we can use our challenges and embrace it meaning we stop fighting against it. Ken Falke and Josh Goldberg deal with veterans suffering from PTSD in their day to day lives so they talk about strategies to cope with past experiences to live a better life in the future.
9. “Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor” by Layla Saad
White people often forget that they have so much privilege compared to people of color in America. In this book, Saad uses examples, definitions, and further resources to help people better understand racism and can learn to stop inflicting damage on people of color. It also gives white people ideas on how to create social change and speak out against racism. Saad wants to change the way that people respond to race and get rid of the biases.
10. “Practicing Mindfulness: 75 Essential Meditations to Reduce Stress, Improve Mental Health, and Find Peace in the Everyday” by Matthew Sockolov
There have been several studies on the mental and physical benefits of meditation. In every study, it has always been proven that mediation only has positive outcomes. Mindfulness meditations help you stay present and more aware of your body. In his book, Sockolov explains what mindfulness is and why it is helpful, how to deal with overbearing thoughts, and 75 step-by-step meditations.
These are some of the best self-help books that range from helping to cope with procrastination to dealing with breakups. All of these books can be found on Amazon. If you’re looking to make a change in your life, check out one of these self-help books to help you on your journey to becoming the best version of yourself.
Read any of these self-help books yet? Let us know in the comments below!
Caitlyn is a third-year student at UCLA. She is majoring in English. She enjoys writing, and going to hot yoga classes and, of course, binge-watching Netflix. At UCLA, Caitlyn is a feature writer for HER Campus, part of the American Cancer Society club, and a member of Alpha Gamma Delta.