Mean girls, the first thing that comes to mind is the classic movie “Mean Girls”, and that is exactly how it is if not similar. If you haven’t seen the movie, go check it out.
Down below are ways to survive the mean girl or girls in school:
Smile and Stay Strong
Mean girls have like a third sense when it comes to picking who they feel they can manipulate. So always smile and remain confident as much as possible.
Don’t look nervous, insecure, defeated when they come around. Work on being resilient and building self-esteem.
Be Confident and Assertive
Everybody needs to learn how to stand up for themselves, especially against the mean girls. The best way is to be assertive.
The goal is that you can defend yourself in a respectful manner without being aggressive in return. It is important that you find a way to communicate what this “mean girl” is doing is not right and is not acceptable.
Consider Your Response
Don’t forget that you can’t control what people say or do because you are only in control of yourself, but the other thing they have control over is the way they respond. An emphasis, that no matter what she should keep her response to the bare minimum and free of emotion.
If responding in a calm manner is challenging, the next best thing to do is ignore comments and walk away.
Disengage From the Conversation
If you are a bystander to mean girl behavior, understand that because nothing is being communicated to her that it’s not right what she is doing, she is going to think it is acceptable. If courage is not up to the level to perform that task, just again walk away so you don’t feel guilty for not helping.
When you limit the power and take away their audience, mean girls don’t know how to act because their power source is stripped. It’s also a good idea to report the behavior so that the rules can be enforced.
Find Another Group of Friends
If the mean girl is someone you thought was a friend of yours, drop them immediately unless they are willing to change their behavior.
Learn how to spot fake friends and discuss the signs with someone is being bullied so that you are informed and educated on.
Keep an Adult Informed
Too many instances where individuals think that they can handle situations with mean girls on their own and that is the wrong mindset to have. Though there are multiple reasons why kids don’t speak on being bullied, it is hard to pinpoint.
Stress as much as you can to those dealing with mean girls that you are there to help them. You are in their corner and want them to be able to go to school without being on edge. You inform them that you will be there for them and work with the school to put an end to the behavior.
Find Healthy Ways of Coping
Show the individual that you hear and see them and inform that what they are going through is not at all their fault. Listening without putting judgment or trying to be the fixer of the problem being presented in front of you.
Validate them and let them know that they can come and confide in you. Show that you are a trustworthy individual, but if they don’t want to talk to you point them in the direction to who they can.