Some of us are lucky enough to spend a life time getting to know the people that we love, while others might not have the same luxury. There are tons of questions to get the ball rolling on the ‘getting to know you’ front. Getting the answer to these questions just might give you that direction you need to settle in or run for the hills! Here are 10 important questions to ask your significant other!
1. What was your first impression when you met me? Did you know we were going to date or be together straight away?
It’s important to know how your partner first felt about you, as well as how they feel now. This can give you a guide as to the direction you are travelling on and the speed, depending on how long you have been together. This is one of the most interesting questions to ask your significant other.
2. What values and morals do you think we share or hold differently?
Values and morals can be a be all end all in a relationship so it’s great to know as early as possible where you both stand on topics that are important to you. Definitely one of the key questions to ask your significant other!
3. What are you ambitions for the future?
It’s ideal to have a partner with dreams and ambitions. It’s important to discuss these things and get an idea of the person and the life they wish to lead, to give you some perspective on the elements of life they value as important and the time they may need to reach these goals.
4. What would I have to do for you to break up with me? What are your deal breakers?
From day one it’s nice to know what your partner’s deal breakers are so that you can go to the ends of the earth to avoid them. Some may have issues with previous partners cheating, so for them there is no second chance and it’s a big no no! Others may find deal breakers in religion, politics or how the bathroom toilet is left..(hopefully not)
5. Do you think you’ve been vulnerable in our relationship?
Knowing when your partners is vulnerable and how to support them can be invaluable in a long term relationship. It’s comforting to know that even in your most exposed state, the person who cares about you knows how to support you. It’s also liberating being able to let your guard down and know you’ll be well looked after.
6. If someone were to ask me to describe you, what would you like me to say?
How your partner perceives themselves, compared to how you see them is often very different. This question may spark conflict and rise insecurities as you debate over how handsome or pretty your partner is, or how funny and charming. Either way it’s great to get your partners view on how they value and see themselves.
7. Do you think if I moved overseas for 6 months, you’d like to continue this relationship?
Often peoples dreams may lead them to overseas travel. If this is one of your ambitions in life, then you may not want to compromise on this dream. It’s a good conversation to have with your partner so no one is left in the dark about possible events in the future (personally I wouldn’t compromise on missing this life event.) Make sure you include this with your questions to ask your significant other.
8. What does love mean to you?
It’s interesting to think about the concept of love, and how it can take shape and mean different things to all of us. By asking your partner and discussing what love means to them, you open up a time capsule for all the times they have felt love, given love and received love. It also gives you an idea of their expectations and possibly how you might go about showing them how you love them.
9. Have you ever been in love before me?
Some of us may have been lucky to be in love before we have found our current partner, but that also might mean we have certain expectations of our new partners. Love is multifaceted, and what was present in past relationships might not be the same now. Talking about previous relationships as a whole can be a good gauge as to what a person likes and dislikes. Approach this question with caution, as it may elicit some unwanted feelings of jealousy or insecurity, but know that this person is with you now for good reasons.
10. What’s one thing you hope happens in the future of our relationship?
How far can your partner see your relationship in the future is a good indicator of how they are feeling about the past and present, and how they perceive the relationship to be in the future. It’s crucial that your partner sees a future with you, after all if there is no future, is there even a present?
What are your thoughts on some questions to ask your significant? Let us know below!
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