Face it, there’s no step by step guide on how to keep a relationship in check, or a procedure to follow to maintain them. Here are some aspects to consider though, when looking at the longevity of a relationship. Follow these handy hints to sustain a healthy relationship!
It is super important that you acknowledge the right or wrong decision you make, and you are honest in your communication with each other. You wouldn’t like your partner lying to you, so give them the same respect.
The ability to talk about your concerns and feelings are paramount to maintaining a healthy relationship. To be able to talk about things that you disagree on especially is invaluable in a relationship and builds the foundation to move on as well as gain perspective on how actions or decisions may be interpreted by your significant other. The ability to talk about insecurities or concerns is key to a healthy relationship.
3. Being Spontaneous
Keep you partner on their toes! Enjoy planning a surprise movie night in, or trips to the beach. Treat your partner to a fun day or night in for you both to enjoy. Keeping things interesting and unpredictable can be key in engaging your partner in a fun relationship, and who doesn’t like a trip to the beach?
4. Trust each other
This may be, in my experience, the most important value to uphold when investing in a relationship. Trust is something you can fall back on when in doubt. It’s the value you that reassures you when that inkling of insecurity seeps through.
5. Date Nights
Set aside time in your busy schedules to spend alone time with each other. Sometimes in the midst of life it is often hard to find alone time, and when you do your both exhausted from daily tasks. Set aside a lunch or time that both you and your partner can enjoy being in each others company, to maintain that healthy relationship.
6. Spend time apart
As important as it is to spend time together, it is also important to spend time apart. Having your own friends, hobbies and interests maintains your connection to the world outside of your couple. It is important to maintain relationships outside your bubble with your significant other, as this gives you both the space and time away from each other to continue being individual people, rather than a collective 24/7. It is important to maintain your identity and acknowledge that part of who you are is made up from the connection with your significant other, but it’s important to make sure that it’s not the only thing that defines you.
7. Travel together
Enjoy travelling to new and old destinations together. Being on the road or in the air can be a great idea to ground each other and remember the reasons you love each other. Its easy to get caught up in the pressures of new jobs or commitments, so having that time to spend with each other away from the usual daily distractions keeps things fresh and in check.
It goes without saying, but keeping sex in your relationship can maintain intimacy and a connection all being done without words (or words.. if you’re into that thing). Sex is a great way to demonstrate your love for your partner, as well as get your daily work out on! Did you know that women burn on average 69 calories per sheet session, with men expending approximately 100! (pending positions)
9. Keeping your relationship problems between each other.
It’s never a great idea to vent about your partner to friends or family, as it’s easy for others to gain a view or opinion on your partner from what you tell them. Remember they only hear the side of the story from you… when you’re angry…when your emotions have taken over. It’s easy to talk things over with your partner once you have some distance and space to understand where things went wrong, but it’s often hard to shape and change the opinions of others once they hear about certain aspects of your significant other. It is these people who you need to support you and be positive about your relationship in order for it to work, as there’s nothing worse then people telling you to end things.
10. Be responsible for your own happiness
Don’t rely on other people to make you happy. You make you happy. It is selfish to demand that another person should make you happy. Sure, your significant other can make you smile and laugh which in turn makes you happy, but these people can not be the source of your happiness. Shift your focus off a person making you happy, to a life that makes you happy. What is it that makes you happy? Is it doing things for others? Is it being by the beach with friends or a night out on the town? Do things that make you happy, but don’t place that responsibility upon your partner as it is unrealistic and can often spark disappointment and uncertainty.