It’s never simple talking to your partner about your sex life, because no one like feeling like they’re being critiqued. However, it is simple, because a change in ones sex life is exciting and thrilling.
If you’ve ever wondered how to go about spicing up your sex life, we’ve got just the thing for you!
Here is a few ways to spice up your sex life:
Right off the bat, role playing does not have to begin hot and heavy right from the get go. It’s the small things you can do to begin changing your sex life.
Try on costumes now and again, and even scenarios where you don’t know each other. These games can begin at a bar downtown where your partner approaches you and you take them home. Picture this: you’re strangers for one night then things go back to normal.
You could include handcuffs if one of you decides to be a cop! The great thing about role playing is that it can cater to anyone’s desires.
Then, once you’re comfortable, you can build it up to different areas of role playing.
If you don’t usually talk during sex, or do not tend to talk to each other dirty, give it a try. It’s actually a turn-on for some people and can motivate them, too.
Step out of your comfort zone and tell your partner what you want them to do to you or what you want to do to them. You don’t have to imitate scenes you’ve seen in films or porn, but it’s always fun to give it a go.
Once you’ve had a go and realised that you’re not too interested, that’s okay, just move on to the next!
This one, unlike talking dirty, is not for the bedroom. A key element in spicing up your sex life is to talk to your partner beforehand about it.
Make them aware of the new things you want to try and see where their head is at. They could even come up with more exciting ways to spice up your sex life than you!
Talk about your fetishes! Your fantasies!
As long as there is an open line of communication between each other, there is nothing to worry about. If you dive in feet first without consulting your partner, or making them aware of your thoughts, then it will be a disaster for both of you.
There’s nothing sexier than two people who have been waiting all day to get home and rip each other”s clothes off.
Delaying sex until the latest moment can be fulfilling for everyone once you’ve actually had satisfaction. Try to refrain from having sex with your partner until the very last moments.
To make it even more fun, tease them during the day with sexy text, light touching and flirtatious kissing. It will give them an idea of what’s in store for later.
Setting Is Crucial
It’s true when they say that some outside factors are a turn-on during sex. For example, candles, the right music, a specific scent in the air and even where you’re having sex.
Next time, make sure the place you’re having sex in is a turn-on for you and your partner (whatever that may be!)
Some settings are more of a turn-on than others, but then again, you can transform any setting into the right place to have sex with the right frame of mind.
Light some candles, dim the lights, wash your sheets and crack open a window, because it will get hot very soon.
Public Sex Surprise
No one plans having public sex, but most people anticipate it.
Be spontaneous with your partner and go into a disabled bathroom for a quickie, oral sex or even a hot make-out session! It’s crucial to be subtle, but the idea of getting caught is a turn-on for most.
You don’t have to give it your all the first time around, so a little bit of frisky kissing won’t hurt in public. An alleyway, a car or the back of the bus!
No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship with your partner, sexting is always fun. Not only does it remind them of the first stages of dating, but it’s like you’re kids again.
While you’re both at work, or apart from each other for the day, send your partner a teasing picture and a winky face. And if you want to take escalate the situation, sext them throughout the day so they’re excited for the night.
Try New Positions
This is the one that gets suggested to everyone when they’re looking to spice up their sex life, but it’s actually very important.
If you don’t want to try any of the other methods to change your routine, then the least you should definitely do is try new positions in bed. Whether they’re complicated or easy, it would be fun to see you both trying it out.
From the spread eagle to the reverse cowgirl, the options are limitless.
Watch Porn Together
This tip has no bad outcome, because you either end up trying to imitate the porn scenes and have great sex with your partner, or you end up laughing at ridiculous some actions are.
Either way, you’re having fun. Not only that, but porn does turn a lot of people on, so you might just be the one who would be interested to watch some with your partner!