Masturbation. Porn. Many people think these are solo activities. Well, think again. They can be enjoyed as a couple. There’s no denying that porn has a bad reputation for being damaging to our mental health, creating unrealistic and unhealthy expectations about sex, and leading to the breakdown of monogamous relationships. However, I would like to use this article to cast a more positive light on porn and how porn can actually improve monogamous relationships as opposed to breaking them down. So without further ado, below is a list of benefits of watching porn as a couple:
Foreplay is a must before sex, it ensures both you and your partner are properly warmed up and aroused. One benefit of watching porn as a couple is that you will be aroused quicker by watching other people getting intimate in front of you. It also feels a bit naughty watching other people, almost as if you shouldn’t be watching it, and this can turn you on more. Even if you just watch a small clip whilst touching each other, guaranteed it will have you sighing deeply quicker than if you didn’t rely on any other stimulation. But be careful – porn should enhance your sex life, you shouldn’t become dependent on it, or use it every time you have sex with your partner. Limit yourself and make watching porn together a special treat.
Another benefit of watching porn as a couple is that you can learn new things that you might never have considered doing in the bedroom before. Remember that porn is artificial and can be heavily choreographed, but take away the simple things you can experiment with, and work up to more daring things. This will be hugely beneficial for your relationship as it will ensure your sex life doesn’t become routine.
No matter how long you have been a couple, there are bound to be a few things your partner might be scared or embarrassed to talk to you about. For example, they might have a particular fetish or fantasy that they want to try out. Watching porn as a couple can be beneficial, as you can discover what really turns your partner on (there are so many different types of porn out there), and your partner might feel more comfortable opening up to you about their desires if you have watched them be acted out in front of you.
There is the common belief that porn can be very damaging in terms of self-esteem and body confidence, or that watching porn is a way to legitimise cheating by admiring and getting aroused by someone else. However, I would argue that a benefit of watching porn as a couple is that you can both admire other people in front of each other without there having to be any repercussions. By watching porn together, you are showing one another that you trust each other and that it is natural and healthy to admire someone else. Some people, especially some girls, feel uncomfortable about their partner watching porn and try to stop them. This can lead to secrecy and deception as their partner continues to watch it in private. But by watching porn as a couple, it shows you are more accepting and it can decrease the risk of dishonesty and underlying insecurities.
Usually porn is watched alone, however the last benefit of watching porn as a couple is that you are spending quality time together and able to bond over something new. It can be another sign that you are committed to one another.
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