12 Signs He’s A Selfish Lover In Bed

Are you seeing signs signs he’s a selfish lover? There should be certain rules and lines in bed that have been discussed with your partner fully, certain actions or words aren’t okay. Being aware of these means both partners can have a better, more fulfilling experience. Within this, there are certain signs that might come up to show you they are a selfish lover. Through research and personal experiences, I have tried to compile a list of ‘signs’ to help you figure out if your partner is a selfish lover.

They expect reciprocation, this can be nice but also sometimes you just want a bit of attention and your partner should respect that.

They simply refuse to go down on you. If this is something you enjoy in bed and your partner is refusing, then its not worth it. This could show an immaturity in your partner, and is definitely one of the signs he’s a selfish lover.

They stop after they’ve finished, sex isn’t just about cumming. It’s about enjoying yourself and helping your partner to enjoy themselves.

They don’t check if everything is alright. Of course, if you’re in a consensual sexual relationship then most of the time everything will be fine. But maybe they are moving too fast or too hard and its not comfortable for you. It’s okay to tell them.

If they refuse to do the work, and constantly make you go on top. Consider changing positions, getting a bit of cardio in and having them take the reins.

Only going for positions that feel good for them means you might not be having your best sexual experience. For this try and mix it up a bit and have fun.

If they expect to not use contraception because ‘it feels better’, this is a bad one. If they re a new partner or even if you are not on any form on contraception you need to stay vigilant and use contraception if you want to. If he is compromising your health and peace of mind, for comfort then these are signs he’s a selfish lover

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They never clean up the after mess. Sex is messy, it is sweaty and sometimes there is a puddle. If your partner refuses to clean up the mess then it’s a sign they might not want to clean up other messes either.

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No affection, only the physical – of course this one depends on the kind of relationship you are in and the kind of boundaries that have already been set and discussed

If they expect you to present your body to them in a certain way – your body is your body and you can be shaved, un-shaved, have a little pudge around the edges or whatever you want.

Again, your body is YOUR BODY. If he is telling you what to do with it, these are signs he’s a selfish lover.

If he expects you to perform when you don’t feel up to it. This one could be a sign of something worse, but again it comparable with the sort of relationship or arrangement you are in.

They expect you to dress or act in a certain way, you are trying to meet their standards or adhering to their kinks rather than enjoying the sex for yourself and hopefully both of you.

Overall, if you start to see signs hes a selfish lover- maybe consider what you’re doing and who you’re doing it with. Sex is something that should be respectful, consensual, and enjoyable for both parties.

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