We’ve all been there, ladies. Whether we got approached by a creepy guy at a bar, went on a first date that didn’t go too well, made the mistake of giving your number to someone you didn’t really want to give your number to but did anyway because you felt bad, whatever the case may be, we’ve all been in a situation where we’re stuck with a guy that we’re just not that in to. This can be a tough situation to be in because you don’t want to be stuck talking to someone that you don’t want to talk to, but you also don’t want to be rude. Worry not. Next time you’re in a situation like this, refer to any of these “thanks but no thanks” options. Here’s how to tell him you’re just not that into him.
1. Be Honest
Sometimes a guy won’t fully get your subtle hints, so you need to be a bit more direct. This doesn’t mean that you have to be mean, though. You can say something like “I appreciate your feelings for me, but I don’t share them.” If you wish to be friends with him you can add that in, but make sure to let him know that a friendship is as far as it goes. If the guy gets mad and takes it the wrong way, then that’s on him. Rejection is never easy for anyone, but hey, if the feelings aren’t there, they just aren’t there and you can’t force what isn’t there. This is one way to tell him you’re just not that into him.
2. Don’t Tell Him You’re “Not Ready” For A Relationship Unless You Mean It
This goes hand-in-hand with being honest. Unless you truly are in a position where you like him, but are just not ready to be in a relationship at the time, then don’t give him false hope and make him think he should wait for you if you just don’t like him and are trying to let him down easy.
3. Respect His Dignity
In most cases, guys don’t deserve you totally ruining them when trying to let them know you’re not interested. Let’s say you’re in a situation where you’re hanging out with him and all his friends and he starts to make inappropriate jokes that imply there’s a relationship between you two, it’s best to just laugh it off at the time and wait until you are alone with him to set him straight. Tell him in privacy that you are not okay with jokes like that because it implies that there’s something more than there really is. You did the right thing by not embarrassing him by saying it in front of his friends and if he has any decency he will return the favor and stop with the jokes when asked. This is another way to tell him you’re just not that into him.
4. Be Prepared To Cut Off Contact
If you have tried all of the above and he’s just not getting it and/or not respecting your decision then it’s time to cut off all contact. Block his number, block him on social media, etc. This should be done as a last resort after you’ve exhausted all other options of telling him you’re not interested, but sometimes this is necessary.