The wants and needs of your partner can go unnoticed in a relationship after a while. The both of you have jobs, family issues, possibly kids to take care of, and maybe issues of your own you’ll have to work through. Nevertheless, you can NEVER forget to nurture one another’s needs and remember why you two decided to be together. Down below, you’ll find a few ways to put the spice back into your relationship with your spouse.
1. Go Out Of Town
I believe couples sometimes forget to have fun with one another like they used too. At times, life can get in the way and you tend to forget the needs of your partner. Going on a trip together can reconnect why you two fell in love in the first place. Spending time away from your everyday lives can give you both the room to recharge and give one another the attention you both desire.
2. A Hotel For the Heck of It
Okay, if the two of you cannot for some reason go out of town at the moment, then maybe checking yourself into a nice hotel can do you some good. Changing your environment period will do you some good. Stay in bed, order room service, talk, laugh and enjoy each other’s company for the weekend.
3. Sexy for Two
If you read my other articles about what extra activities you can do in the bedroom, you know lingerie is my favorite idea. Women are not the only ones that wear lingerie, there’s some for men too. Have you ever both dressed in something sexy for each other? I think not. It is usually the woman dressing in something half naked and sexy because that is the norm. Putting on something sexy can definitely spice up the mood for couples. Lingerie never fails. Ladies put on a see-through, sexy teddy, men, and slide into some soft and silky boxers.
4. Changing Places
Sex is one of the most important aspects in a relationship. For some people, it may matter less than others; however, it is still important. Trying different sex positions besides sticking to the same old routine can surprise your partner and gain more excitement. Hell, I am sure it will give you more pleasure anyway. That’s what they’re made for.
5. Playing Doctor
Besides the lingerie, there are costumes. If you and your partner are into role-playing out each other’s fantasies, then thumbs up to you! I can’t stress enough how so many people get weirded out when one partner brings up the idea of dressing up like a slutty nurse or him, dressing up like a lumberjack. Role-playing is fun, sexy and it can bring a lot of creativity to your sex life. How far you guys want to go is your business, but I promise, the more realistic the fantasy, the better.
6. Cooking Together
This is one of the most intimate, non-sexual acts you can do together in a relationship. Let’s say you are both cooking dinner in the kitchen. What are you doing? Are you just walking around silent or just keeping your eyes on cutting the carrots? No! You’re laughing, talking, maybe doing a little dancing, just acting silly with each other. I think the greatest thing about cooking together is the conversation. This is the time to talk to your partner about anything because they are right there. Then, you two sit down and eat; which is another intimate act whether you know it or not. I know a lot of women that do not like to eat in front of men because they are scared of what they might think. Bull crap! Eat girl, he doesn’t care. Men think it’s sexy that a woman isn’t afraid to eat what her heart desires with no shame at all.
7. Party Time!
Stepping out to a club or bar together can be very invigorating in many ways. You two out having fun and letting loose can blow off some steam. Now, there is a chance that one of you may get hit on while out and about, but it’s up to you on how far to take the flirt. Please do not flirt back. I’ll say just enjoy it being done to you and then, you and your spouse can laugh about it later. A bit evil, but funny at the same damn time.
8. Add A Plus 1
In my generation, this is more common than people lead on. I hear many couples are doing this and are really enjoying themselves. They’re calling it “throuples” now. If you and your partner are into adding a person to your sex life then this shouldn’t be a bad idea. Pleasing another man or woman together or one a time is beyond spicy.
9. Oh My GOD! Look At Her Butt!
We all know that men admire other women we aren’t looking. We are not stupid guys. But ladies, ever think about complementing the woman your man is admiring from afar? Trust me, he’ll be very surprised and aroused at the same time. Men, don’t you find it a bit sexy when your woman openly expresses how she feels about an attractive male she sees? Makes you want her more, doesn’t it? Being open with one another is great for the relationship. Even adds a bit more wanting or sexual desire for one another.
10. Want To Play A Game?
Not in a creepy SAW kind of way! A sexy card game or Nerf Wars inside the house. You must remember to have fun with one another. After all, your spouse is like your best friend and this means playing a slight game with Nerf guns shouldn’t be a problem. Release that inner child and run free! You’ll feel refreshed and even closer to your lover.