{"id":74045,"date":"2025-01-17T12:15:08","date_gmt":"2025-01-17T12:15:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.society19.com\/?p=74045"},"modified":"2025-01-17T12:15:09","modified_gmt":"2025-01-17T12:15:09","slug":"contacting-new-flatmate-first-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.society19.com\/uk\/contacting-new-flatmate-first-time\/","title":{"rendered":"Contacting Your New Flatmate For The First Time"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If you haven\u2019t already, pretty soon you\u2019ll be finding out who your flatmate is going to be for first year.\u00a0It can be seriously\u00a0nerve-wracking to contact your new flatmate\u00a0for the first time, so\u00a0here are a few tips to help you combat the nerves and make a good first impression.<\/p>\n<h3>Take advantage of\u00a0social media.<\/h3>\n<p>The first thing most people will do when they find out the name of their flatmate is find\u00a0them on social media sites. This can be a good way to learn things like what kind of music they like, movies they watch, what their hobbies are. However, be careful about judging them before you actually get to know them. Not everyone is exactly the same on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram as they are in real life; so go ahead and check out their profile, but don\u2019t let ideas form in your head about who they are just from that.<\/p>\n<p>Take a minute to look at your own personal accounts as well. Do they represent you the way you would like? I know that around the time when I first found out who my flatmate would be, my picture on Facebook was of a lone tree in the middle of a field (it was an inside joke with a few of my friends). Knowing that my future flatmate was probably going to be some Facebook stalking of her own, I quickly changed my profile\u00a0before\u00a0reaching out to her.<\/p>\n<h6 style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<\/h6>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3>Make a quick introduction via Email.<\/h3>\n<p>Most initial contacts are done via the Internet, making email a great option\u00a0for a quick introduction, and to get the first conversation started.\u00a0When you decide to contact them, try something simple like, \u201cHey, I\u2019m\u00a0(your name), your new flatmate, and I just wanted to introduce myself before we moved in together!\u201d You can add in\u00a0a few facts like your course\u00a0and where you are from, and then just let the conversation flow from there.\u00a0Once the conversation has begun, a few initial questions you might want to ask are:\u00a0Where are they are from?\u00a0How many siblings do they have? Are they going to be involved in any campus activities or sports?<\/p>\n<h3>Be sure to have a solid conversation<\/h3>\n<p>Besides learning the little things about each other, there are certain topics\u00a0you should make sure you understand before moving in with each other so you are prepared for one another\u2019s living styles. Here are few essential things to know before hand:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>How neat or messy you are<\/li>\n<li>What time you like to go to bed<\/li>\n<li>What time you like to be up in the morning<\/li>\n<li>If you like to listen to music when you do work<\/li>\n<li>How each of you feel about having friends in the room<\/li>\n<li>Will guests be allowed to spend the night?<\/li>\n<li>How hot or cold do you like the room<\/li>\n<li>Who is bringing what (microwave, fridge, etc.)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h6 style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<\/h6>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Make sure you evaluate your living style honestly. It\u2019s no use lying about how neat you are, or how late you stay up, because your flatmate will find out the truth eventually. When you first start talking with your flatmate, if you\u2019re honest, you can compromise on things and set schedules if you find that there are certain things that you do differently. For example, if you need absolute quiet when you study, you can set up times when your flatmate will be out. This will help to avoid conflicts later on because you both will have a better notion of what to expect.<\/p>\n<h3>Pick up the phone and give\u00a0them a call.<\/h3>\n<p>You should try and talk on the phone with your flatmate at least once before you move in. You can text back and forth for a while and when it feels like it won\u2019t be super weird, have a phone chat.\u00a0\u00a0You\u2019ll get to know your flatmate better. The call can even just be about who is bringing what- you shouldn\u2019t be spilling life secrets or anything. If you live nearby each other, try and meet up and hang out a few times. See how you get along so you\u2019ll be fully prepared when it comes time to move in with each other.\u00a0Plus it will help make you feel like you are not moving in with a complete stranger.<\/p>\n<h3>For best results&#8230;<\/h3>\n<p>While it\u2019s perfectly okay to follow each other and share some fun pictures, avoid sending your flatmate-to-be\u00a0tons of Snapchats or start liking\u00a0everything they post. I can assure you this will look\u00a0like you\u2019re trying too hard, or worse, it will just come off creepy. Your future flatmate will (hopefully) become your BFF, but\u00a0remember, friendships like this take time.<\/p>\n<p>While we encourage being upfront with your flatmate, some things are better left unsaid before you meet him\/her in person. You can say that you are more of a night owl and like to party, without bragging about all the shots you are planning on taking. You can say that you like to keep things clean and tidy, without mentioning that you\u2019re totally OCD about your stuff being out of place. Remember that living with someone will involve some adjustments on both parts.<\/p>\n<h3>Something to keep in mind\u2026<\/h3>\n<p>Don\u2019t expect that you and your flatmate will be best friends. Getting along is important to having an enjoyable first year, but that doesn\u2019t mean that you are going to be inseparable. While this does sometimes happen; it doesn\u2019t\u00a0hurt to branch out and meet new people and just be friendly towards each other.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Meeting a new flatmate for the first time is never an easy thing to do, but just follow these few tips and you should have no problem! Unless you have the infamous crazy flatmate , in which case nothing can help but a level head.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h6>Featured image source: pinterest.com<\/h6>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you haven\u2019t already, pretty soon you\u2019ll be finding out who your flatmate is going to be for first year.\u00a0It can be seriously\u00a0nerve-wracking to contact your new flatmate\u00a0for the first time, so\u00a0here are a few tips to help you combat the nerves and make a good first impression. Take advantage of\u00a0social media. 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