{"id":149408,"date":"2025-02-18T02:30:07","date_gmt":"2025-02-18T02:30:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.society19.com\/uk\/?p=149408"},"modified":"2025-02-18T02:30:07","modified_gmt":"2025-02-18T02:30:07","slug":"why-girl-code-is-overrated-and-we-should-own-our-choices","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.society19.com\/uk\/why-girl-code-is-overrated-and-we-should-own-our-choices\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Girl Code Is Overrated And We Should Own Our Choices"},"content":{"rendered":"

Urban Dictionary\u2019s definition of \u201cgirl code\u201d is \u2018the code of guidelines that girls most obey in order not to get kicked out of the community.’ A little harsh, don\u2019t you think? I\u2019m pretty sure it\u2019s more empowering to support the decisions of fellow females and own the choices that you make as a woman.<\/p>\n

True Friends Have Your Best Interests At Heart<\/h2>\n

Why wait for your bestie\u2019s heart to get broken when you can see that\u2019s exactly what\u2019s going to happen? Adhering to girl code and being polite about their other half really only serves a selfish purpose \u2013 to avoid awkwardness and potential fallout. Whatever happened to honesty is the best policy?! If you don\u2019t like their partner, for whatever reason, let them know, because your opinion means more to them than you realise and friends (just like mums) usually know best!<\/p>\n

Are They Really Your Friend If You Don\u2019t Trust Them?<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re having visions of your best friend making a move on your boyfriend\/girlfriend when they\u2019re alone together, you\u2019ve either got some insane trust issues or extremely bad choice in friends\u2026We all want our friends to get along with our partners so if they\u2019re getting on so well that they enjoy hanging out one on one, how can we complain? As long as they don\u2019t start third-wheeling our dates, all is well.<\/p>\n

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Your Friend Isn\u2019t Always Right!<\/h2>\n

As much as you love them, they\u2019re not perfect. Whether they\u2019re arguing with their partner or a girl outside of the group, they may be in the wrong. If this is the case, you should tell them! True friends won\u2019t question your loyalty, but instead, appreciate your honesty as it will make them reflect on the situation and resolve it more easily.<\/p>\n

Breaking It Can Be Funny!<\/h2>\n

Probably the most well-known rule of girl code is: Never sleep with someone who your friend has slept with. When it comes to serious ex-boyfriends then yes, this may be justified, but if not then why the hell not?! Contextual factors obviously play a big part in determining whether you should break this aspect of girl code or not, but if you know your friend well enough, you\u2019ll know if the friendship will be broken or strengthened by your decision.<\/p>\n

Plus, it makes quite a story when your entire girl group has slept with the same guy\u2026the ultimate bonding experience!<\/p>\n

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There\u2019s Only So Many Times A Girl Can Make Sacrifices<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re the girl that is forever standing by whilst your friends crack on with the hot guys they\u2019ve \u2018claimed\u2019 but you rather fancy, back yourself for once! You deserve to be romantically happy too, and if that means temporarily upsetting a friend, sometimes it has to be done. Look out for number one.<\/p>\n

Some People Value Privacy<\/h2>\n

Not every girl wishes to share the intimate details of their sex life with their girlfriends. And that\u2019s okay. We shouldn\u2019t feel pressured into revealing all our bedroom antics, especially details about our romantic partner which we don\u2019t have their permission to share! \u2018Tell us everything\u2026\u2019 is a request that girls expect their friends to answer, without withholding any information, but certain details should remain private between you and your partner.<\/p>\n

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It Causes Unnecessary Fallouts<\/h2>\n

Girl code prescriptivism is, more often than not, the root of arguments between friends. Using it as a point of reference is childish and decontextualizes your friendship and the incident that\u2019s occurred. The most important thing is to be open and honest with your friends and standby the decisions that you all make so that female empowerment continues to grow.<\/p>\n

Do you strictly adhere to the girl code? What happened when you broke it? Comment your opinions and stories below!<\/h3>\n

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Urban Dictionary\u2019s definition of \u201cgirl code\u201d is \u2018the code of guidelines that girls most obey in order not to get kicked out of the community.’ A little harsh, don\u2019t you think? I\u2019m pretty sure it\u2019s more empowering to support the decisions of fellow females and own the choices that you make as a woman. 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