We\u2019re all warned from day one: Don\u2019t sleep with your flatmate.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s a classic tale: Na\u00efve, innocent fresher\u2019s embarking on a new chapter of their lives, away from home, free from their parent\u2019s close gaze.<\/p>\n
Like most young, single students, I embraced the chance to experiment in non-exclusive relations, so commonly described as \u2018Friends with Benefits\u2019. Oh, how innocent I was.<\/p>\n
Grouped in a 6 bed flat with an arguably odd and incompatible crowd, I immediately gravitated towards one of the more \u2018normal\u2019 individuals who happened to be a guy. But my intentions were innocent. Obviously.<\/p>\n
Fresh out of a relatively long-term relationship, I didn\u2019t want anything too <\/em>serious (as a sex-crazed teenager: he d e f I n I t e l y didn\u2019t) but naturally, I didn\u2019t know what I was getting myself into. So, to all fresher\u2019s about to board this new, exciting chapter of their lives, if you take any advice from anyone, let it be: \u00a0Never Sleep With Your Flatmate\u2026 and here\u2019s why:<\/p>\n That freedom you thought would never fade, has gone. Tiptoeing down your corridor will become a regular occurrence. You\u2019ll find yourself waiting till the early hours of the morning to cook your dinner, nervously praying he\u2019s won\u2019t be in.<\/p>\n \n Whether you\u2019re willing to admit it or not, your fellow housemates are put in the middle. In the event of an awkward ending, where both of you avoid seeing and talking to each other, your flatmates will be forced to choose. As cutthroat as it sounds, it comes down to who do they prefer. One of you will end up isolated\u00a0and alone, forever regretting the series of ultimately unsatisfying one night stands you shared.<\/p>\n This is arguably the hardest of them all. Before you both caved into the sexual tensions, you were friends. You liked each other and were grateful to have someone to hang out with while cooking dinner or to\u00a0watch Grey\u2019s Anatomy with.<\/p>\n It might be sh*t.<\/p>\n \n While i stayed\u00a0loyal (gullible, I know) he wasn\u2019t. Having never had \u2018the talk\u2019 in fear of adding pressure we had no labels and no ties. It dawned on me fast that not many boys in their first year of university are ready (or willing to commit). Obviously, this is from my experience- the same applies to many girls. He saw university as a chance to explore (put bluntly) sex.<\/p>\n Every. Night. Out. You will\u00a0somehow end up drunk texting him or stumbling back to his room. Seriously. Someone should have confiscated my phone.<\/p>\n One day you\u2019ll have an epiphany and fleetingly\u00a0gain some self- respect and decide to end your causal relationship. But, living 5 steps from each other means this is near impossible. You physically can\u2019t escape each other.<\/p>\n My friends didn\u2019t like him (although I avoided an official \u2018meeting\u2019 at all costs) and neither will yours. Why would you stay with someone who doesn\u2019t want to be with you? (I still don\u2019t know the answer)<\/p>\n \n It was me. Awkward.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll be left wondering why he doesn\u2019t want to commit, and why he still feels the need to \u2018sleep around\u2019.<\/p>\n There are SO many reasons why you should NEVER sleep with your flatmate (10 to be exact). It\u2019s awkward, humiliating and degrading. You\u2019ll probably regret it the moment you drunkenly trip into one of your rooms. But what do I know? I\u2019m still with mine (three years on).<\/p>\n We\u2019re all warned from day one: Don\u2019t sleep with your flatmate. It\u2019s a classic tale: Na\u00efve, innocent fresher\u2019s embarking on a new chapter of their lives, away from home, free from their parent\u2019s close gaze. Like most young, single students, I embraced the chance to experiment in non-exclusive relations, so commonly described as \u2018Friends with…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":25244,"featured_media":142107,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":true},"categories":[1805],"tags":[8399,8282,8057,16145],"thb-sponsors":[],"class_list":["post-142106","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships","tag-relationships","tag-sex","tag-university","tag-w"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n1. Be prepared for endless awkward run-ins.<\/h2>\n
2. Your flat WILL divide<\/h2>\n
3. Your once flirty friendship is OVER<\/h2>\n
4. It almost definitely won\u2019t live up to your expectations<\/h2>\n
5. You\u2019ll probably be one of many<\/h2>\n
6. Alcohol will become your nemesis<\/h2>\n
7. Once you realise it\u2019s wrong you\u2019ll agree to stop but it won\u2019t last<\/h2>\n
8. You\u2019ll be judged by your friends<\/h2>\n
9. One of you WILL catch feelings<\/h2>\n
10. It will ruin your self-esteem<\/h2>\n
Have you ever slept with your flatmate? Give us your story in the comments!<\/h3>\n
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