We live in a conflicting world where relationships are based on Disney princess movies and\u00a0RomComs. Sex is based on\u00a0PornHub\u2019s\u00a0classics. All at the same time…\u00a0we are\u00a0being told none of these are real! And\u00a0to not pursue fantasy or\u00a0put pressure on our relationships. This is stressful.\u00a0It is\u00a0also\u00a0very conflicting. And, there seems to be few \u201caccurate\u201d representations of what a \u201cnormal\u201d relationship is\u00a0on screen. I don\u2019t think there is such a\u00a0thing as a normal relationship. Each healthy relationship is made by two individual people.\u00a0Thus,\u00a0each relationship is individual.<\/p>\n
Something I have noticed is that, maybe based on some of these representations of relationships as I\u2019ve mentioned, people have a lot of ideas and expectations about relationships. This include ideas about how to behave and such in a relationship. My best advice \u2013 as an unqualified relationship adviser \u2013 is forget all that shit. I can\u2019t tell you how to have a perfect relationship \u2013 like I said totally unqualified \u2013 but I can tell you a few ways to contribute to a happy and healthy one based on my experiences. This all comes down to sweating the small stuff. The small things in relationships matter the most. This isn\u2019t to say be picky, or aggressive about small things you dislike. This is\u00a0bigging\u00a0up the small stuff that is great! That you may unconsciously take for granted! The stuff that, after you\u2019ve left the \u201choneymoon\u201d phase which is more sex than conversation, you may start forgetting to do.<\/p>\n
The small things matter the most because they can be tiny injections of happiness to your day without much effort or cost. This can be buying a chocolate bar, making the bed, telling them their cute and so on. Small, teeny tiny things that can really make someone\u2019s day a lot happier.\u00a0Things you may not even consider to be much at all. They could also make your own a lot happier. You don’t have to make a big deal out of the tiny niceties you do for each other, but just see them and appreciate them.<\/p>\n
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I think the small stuff is important because if you rely only on the big stuff it\u2019s almost like you forget that your relationship is something you chose to be a part of. Well, I hope you did. Think about it this way, you and another person have made a pact between you both that actually has no physical existence. One day you are friends the next you\u2019re in a relationship… so what\u2019s new?\u00a0Good friends and relationships are based on foundations of doing and being thoughtful and kind to one another.<\/p>\n
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Relationships are not about the big stuff. Huge proclamations are for Hollywood. But if you like that then good for you! But for I think the average person it\u2019s not realistic or feasible. The small stuff can be so small, it can be so doable.\u00a0The small stuff is just your\u00a0everyday\u00a0making them a cuppa.<\/p>\n
Why venture into a relationship where you don\u2019t want to make that person smile every day? Where you can\u2019t be bothered every day. The best part about the small stuff? It is a way for all you un-romantics out there to keep up the love.<\/p>\n
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My idea for a good relationship is that you make someone happy. You are enough. The small stuff is giving them a wink at a party, or holding their hand, or just anything small! But it matters and you shouldn\u2019t overlook it or give up on it. I don\u2019t care how long you\u2019ve been\u00a0dating\u00a0the small stuff never dies. And you shouldn’t let it.<\/p>\n
Show you care, show you want to be in the relationship! If not, then gtfo. What\u2019s the point? Care about the small stuff, it\u2019s important to keep you close to, interested in, and bonded with someone that you\u2019ve made an invisible pact with.<\/p>\n
The thing is, you probably do a lot of this stuff anyway. I am not telling you a new way to start to live your life and behave. My message to you is, notice it. Love it. It is important and it\u2019ll make you happy.<\/p>\n
We live in a conflicting world where relationships are based on Disney princess movies and\u00a0RomComs. Sex is based on\u00a0PornHub\u2019s\u00a0classics. All at the same time…\u00a0we are\u00a0being told none of these are real! And\u00a0to not pursue fantasy or\u00a0put pressure on our relationships. This is stressful.\u00a0It is\u00a0also\u00a0very conflicting. And, there seems to be few \u201caccurate\u201d representations of what…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":24753,"featured_media":130928,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":true},"categories":[1805],"tags":[8016,8775,8399],"thb-sponsors":[],"class_list":["post-141605","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships","tag-dating","tag-love","tag-relationships"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n