Almost everyone has those ex-besties that they were once inseparable from, but sometimes it’s not just that you drift apart but it may also be that there’s some drama that goes down. \u00a0Each time something happens you learn a little bit more about life and yourself, so here are 12 lessons from a toxic friendships.<\/p>\n
There is nothing wrong with compromising if someone’s upset. \u00a0And if people are communicating with you that they’re lacking something that’s really healthy. \u00a0But a compromise doesn’t mean that you have to put yourself out just to make the other person happy: it means learning to accept each other and meet in the middle, not fighting over what you’ve done for each other.<\/p>\n
<\/span> If you have to tone down your passions or loves because you’re ‘annoying’ then that’s not great. \u00a0We all have our quirks, but true friends accept us with them (even if they find it annoying). \u00a0And if you’re good at something you shouldn’t have to make yourself appear less good just for them.<\/p>\n I have lots of personal experience of this, and I’ve realised now that that was what I was. \u00a0I was very emotionally immature and innocent when I moved city, and I became the ‘plaything’ of a few people. \u00a0It was a mission to get me to flirt and get drunk, and now I see that actually when I grew up a bit and started spreading my wings, that was when people started getting angry at me.<\/p>\n Don’t get me wrong, a little bit of friendly pressure can teach you lots, however there is a difference between introducing you horror movies and doing things that you’re not always comfortable with. \u00a0Don’t feel like you have to do things just because other people do, whether it be drugs (pretty extreme I know) or just wearing things you’re not comfortable in.<\/p>\n My mum can weed out bad friends long before anyone else in my life. \u00a0She doesn’t stop me from being friends with them or living my own life, but she does caution me when she gets weird vibes from someone. \u00a0I denied it for so long, but the more I live the more I really do see that my mum\u00a0does\u00a0<\/em>know best.<\/p>\n If you don’t want to do something, cool. \u00a0If you don’t want to get drunk, cool. \u00a0I’ve been shouted at before for having a headache and not going clubbing. \u00a0I’ve been called a fake friend and a bitch and so I really have got to the stage now where I don’t care what people call me.<\/p>\n If you achieve a success that your friend doesn’t they shouldn’t get angry at you or act salty because you got there first. \u00a0They should celebrate with you. \u00a0As one of my favourite quotes says: “a candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.”<\/p>\n <\/span> If you don’t wanna hang out with someone\u00a0all the time\u00a0<\/em>that is fine. \u00a0Tell people. \u00a0And this goes both ways: it’s more hurtful to be lied to about why they don’t want to hang out with you than to just be told that you want alone time.<\/p>\n This was a lesson taught to me by my high school English teacher, who always used to tell us girls in her class that “no matter what, you must always have your independence.” \u00a0If you rely on someone, whether it’s a platonic friendship or romantic relationship you should always try to keep your freedom, and don’t let yourself lose all sense of a ‘way out’.<\/p>\n It’s fine. \u00a0It hurts to be on the receiving end and it hurts to do it but in the end it will feel far more worth it when you’re not facing the stress you had before. \u00a0Be true to yourself, really.<\/p>\n You BFF just left your side and you feel empty without them. \u00a0But you will survive. \u00a0Friend breakups can be worse than relationship breakups, so give yourself time to heal and remember the good times before moving on.<\/p>\n <\/span> It takes two to tango, and a toxic friendship isn’t just about what they do but also what you do. \u00a0When you feel ready, evaluate how you acted and whether you can improve for the future.<\/p>\n Almost everyone has those ex-besties that they were once inseparable from, but sometimes it’s not just that you drift apart but it may also be that there’s some drama that goes down. \u00a0Each time something happens you learn a little bit more about life and yourself, so here are 12 lessons from a toxic friendships.…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":25185,"featured_media":141310,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":true},"categories":[1805],"tags":[8120,9991,18226,11411,11849],"thb-sponsors":[],"class_list":["post-141309","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships","tag-friends","tag-friendships","tag-lessons","tag-life","tag-toxic"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n
\n<\/span><\/p>\n2. BUT if you have to dim your shine it’s not healthy<\/h2>\n
3. If you’re the ‘project’ be wary<\/h2>\n
4. Don’t be pressured<\/h2>\n
5. Mother knows best<\/h2>\n
6. You don’t need to explain your actions to anyone<\/h2>\n
7. True friends support you, they don’t get jealous<\/h2>\n
\n<\/span><\/p>\n8. It’s okay to want alone time<\/h2>\n
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9. Don’t make yourself dependant on anyone<\/h2>\n
10. Know that it’s okay to end a friendship if you want to<\/h2>\n
11. You will survive even if you feel like you’re all alone<\/h2>\n
\n<\/span><\/p>\n12. Learn from any mistakes you made<\/h2>\n
So there are my personal 12 lessons from a toxic friendship. \u00a0Have you ever experienced a toxic friendship and do you have any more lessons which I didn’t include? \u00a0Let us know down below!<\/h3>\n
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