Being a teenager is genuinely one of the most difficult things I\u2019ve encountered so far in my brief life. You\u2019re emotional, confused, struggling through exams, crushes, unfamiliar emotions, and, on top of everything, you\u2019ve been told these are the best years of your life. For me, that wasn\u2019t true, but they might have been a little better if I\u2019d known these things back then. Here is an\u00a0open letter to my 16 year old self.<\/p>\n
I know, this one seems obvious in an open letter, but if someone had just sat me down and said kindly: \u2018I promise no one is looking at your spots, or that flyaway piece of hair, or your stomach, legs, or any other part of you\u2019, I would have probably walked with far more confidence. It took me until I was 18 to realise people are way more absorbed in their own lives to even notice that your lipstick is a little smudged, and that\u2019s a fact. Wear what you like and walk without fear, and try to remember that if people are\u00a0<\/em>looking, it\u2019s probably in a positive way.<\/p>\n Another major one in my open letter\u2013 a lot of people I knew changed as soon as they hit 13, and a lot of them pretended to like things just to fit in. I did a bit of this myself and changed my taste in music to impress a boy I knew deep down would never like me back. I would giggle stupidly, attempt to twirl my hair, and then feel like an idiot because doing these things were so unlike me<\/em>, but the magazines told me I should, and so I did. Don\u2019t do what I did \u2013 you want people to like you for you, not for the person you\u2019ve fabricated for them to fall in love with.<\/p>\n You will always encounter people who think you\u2019re overreacting, and maybe you are, but that doesn\u2019t make your problems any less real. Friendship problems, relationship problems, issues with mental health and schoolwork \u2013 they\u2019re all important issues that don\u2019t become any less important because you\u2019re young. I spent most of my teenage years bottling up how I felt because I was worried my parents would dismiss my problems or talk about them to other people and I didn\u2019t feel any better for it. Always talk to someone you trust about how you feel because as they say, a problem shared is a problem halved!<\/p>\n A lot of teenagers think that the friends they have at school will be their friends forever and ever, but a lot of the time this really isn\u2019t the case. When you go to college or university, or even when you start a new job or apprenticeship, your friendship group will naturally start to drift apart as you develop different interests and meet new people. This isn\u2019t necessarily a bad thing, and you will retain some of your friends \u2013 one of my closest friends is someone I\u2019ve known since I was 4 \u2013 but putting pressure on your friends to stay friends forever will have the opposite effect of what you want and can cause an awkward rift.<\/p>\n Okay, so this one in my open letter is a little specific. Seriously though, if you\u2019re thinking of dying your hair, never go for permanent straight away, and always make sure your friend actually knows what they are doing. You could end up with streaky red stripes, or stringy yellow hair that is the opposite of the lustrous, shining blonde the box dye promised. I\u2019m all for experimentation, but make sure you do a trial run first unless you want to look back at photos of you from that time and wonder\u00a0oh god, what was I thinking?<\/em><\/p>\n I can\u2019t go back in time and tell my 16-year-old self these thing, but if you\u2019re a teenager reading this then I promise you it will get better. All of the angst and the sorrow and the in-between you\u2019re feeling right now will fade away. Allow yourself to grow as a person, to go through silly phases, to laugh loudly and wear that bright eyeshadow, because that\u2019s what being a teenager is all about \u2013 expressing yourself and learning what works for you!<\/p>\n Being a teenager is genuinely one of the most difficult things I\u2019ve encountered so far in my brief life. You\u2019re emotional, confused, struggling through exams, crushes, unfamiliar emotions, and, on top of everything, you\u2019ve been told these are the best years of your life. For me, that wasn\u2019t true, but they might have been a…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":24719,"featured_media":135581,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":true},"categories":[8479,1801],"tags":[15374,9510,14873],"thb-sponsors":[],"class_list":["post-135577","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-entertainment","category-life-in-real-world","tag-future-relationships","tag-open-letter","tag-young-adult"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n2. Pretending to Like Things Will Only Get You So Far<\/h2>\n
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3. Your Problems Are Important<\/h2>\n
4. Your School Friends Don\u2019t Have to Be Friends for Life<\/h2>\n
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5. Do NOT Let Your Friend Dye Your Hair<\/h2>\n
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Have you ever written yourself an open letter? Let us know in the comments below!<\/h2>\n
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