Every person is different so every relationship is different. But every friend, family member, celebrity and magazine seems to have an idea of how your relationship should function and progress, and calls you out when they think something isn\u2019t normal- but here\u2019s the down low. Can you have a relationship without intimacy?<\/p>\n
For some couples, intimacy is being all over each other and never cooling it with the PDA, for others heartfelt declarations of love are more their speed, for some it\u2019s shown through extravagant gifts and for some its through little gestures and helping hands.\u00a0 It can be a combination of any. Everyone speaks a different love language.\u00a0So we wonder can you have a relationship without intimacy? Even more importantly it can be none of the above.<\/p>\n
We define our relationships- they don\u2019t define us. Just because there are societal pressures to present and express intimacy in a limited number of ways that doesn\u2019t mean that that\u2019s what works for you. Find your own flow, nothing has to fit into the cookie cutter mould of what a relationship is or should be, there\u2019s no time scale and no need to \u201cprogress\u201d or change to different forms of intimacy if they just don\u2019t suit you.<\/p>\n
Some people just aren\u2019t physically affectionate- especially in public- and that\u2019s okay! \u00a0Often dependent on their position on the asexual spectrum some people just aren\u2019t interested in physical intimacy and that\u2019s okay too! Everyone is different.<\/p>\n
Try not to worry about what your friends or family think about your relationship intimacy- you\u2019re not in a relationship with them after all! You don\u2019t need to performatively change your intimacy style just to please others, do what feels right and comfortable for you. If the way you express intimacy is an issue for you, YOU and not what other people think, then its okay to seek professional advice through therapist services to work through why you feel that way.<\/p>\n
If your partner just isn\u2019t into intimacy in the same way you are its okay to ask them for more. Relationships are all about consensual give and take, of course they don\u2019t have to do anything they don\u2019t want to do, but often they won\u2019t mind ramping up the affection to a level you\u2019re both still comfortable if its an issue for you.<\/p>\n
This doesn\u2019t make you, or your partner bad or neglectful. It often just means youre not compatible- and that\u2019s okay. If you\u2019ve talked it out and what you both want and need just can\u2019t reach a happy medium its okay to say you gave it your best shot but you just didn\u2019t work- its not fair for one or both of you to live unhappily.<\/p>\n
Many relationship therapists have debated whether intimacy is essential and come up with a million answers. But at the end of the day, its up to you and your partner and no one else’s opinion really matters. If you\u2019re both 100% comfortable with your level, or lack there of, of intimacy- then who cares! It works for you and that\u2019s perfect! Try to get out your heard thinking of what others think and follow your own truth. It\u2019s up to you and your partner to figure it out.<\/p>\n
Every person is different so every relationship is different. But every friend, family member, celebrity and magazine seems to have an idea of how your relationship should function and progress, and calls you out when they think something isn\u2019t normal- but here\u2019s the down low. Can you have a relationship without intimacy? YOU GET TO…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":22412,"featured_media":131615,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":true},"categories":[1805],"tags":[14531,14711,14796,14798,14797,8399],"thb-sponsors":[],"class_list":["post-131590","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships","tag-couple","tag-couple-goals","tag-emotional-intimacy","tag-intimacy-in-relationships","tag-physical-intimacy","tag-relationships"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n