2018 is fast approaching and with regards to leaving 2017 behind you’ll probably want to leave behind everything else with, including your dating life, no matter how atrocious or great it may have been. There’s one thing certain in the new year, many who say new year new me can take note and put their plan of action into place. So here’s some good tips and advice to help you in the new year when it comes to the most talk about aspect over the family dinner table from Christmas. Here are 10 reasons to get back out there!
1. Wiping the slate clean
It’s a great feeling to not only wipe that slate clean and leave behind the regrets of last year but also the feels associated with it to beginning afresh. Feeling fresh is always the first step in motivating you to learn from the mistakes of last year in your dating life. Another chance for you to be different and maybe even try something new, who knows? The best part about this simple piece of advice is that you aren’t alone, you and the rest of the female and male population are looking for a fresh start and time to grow on each year as life continues. It promotes growth mentally and brings out the better you.
2. Its been the highlight of Christmas talk
Spending time with the family fro the festive holidays, you’ll probably have learned that the hot topic of the dinner conversations is relatives asking ‘why are you single?’ A topic discussed that much that may not have bothered you before has no become a goal for 2018. After some time with the family its now given you a perspective to go back out there and date, try something new and if it works great maybe by next Christmas the family pestering will have worked if not, well cant blame you for at least giving it a try. Either way the effort put on isn’t useless.
3. Living life to the full
Something that may have been ignored from the previous year, dating may have been the last thing on your mind, but next year it will all change and you will be different. Maybe its time to take the first step (or leap) and get back out there. Have some fun and make some memories or hilarious stories along the way, what’s the worst that can happen?
4. Maybe its time to settle down
Life is passing each single moment and as time goes on so do you, its inevitable and there’s no stopping it. For some you may have reached a stage in your life where dating for cheap thrills and one night stands are now a thong of the past and its time to settle. Maybe you want something else out of life and the only way to get it is to date and find what some may call ‘the one’. Others may (like myself) cringe at the very thought of this but as the new year dawns these thoughts may no longer be able to stay suppressed. You cant expect life to hand it to you on a silver platter so why not get back out there and find what you are looking for, you never know you might eventually find it.
5. Looking for fun!
Dating an actually be plenty of fun and doesn’t mean searching for an end goal! Unlike the last piece of advice this step is for those who want to wither stay young and relive their youth or for those who seek adventure in dating. Putting yourself out there doesn’t make you a bad person because after all no one wishes to a boring know it all and give up, its about the ride not the destination after all.
6. Be who you are meant to be
Whether its gay/straight/bi or whatever agenda you have, 2018 is the year to expand and explore what you actually want. Maybe this is why dating has been holding you back for the fear of not getting what you want or lack of acceptance or respect. The best way to appreciate who you are to seek what you want and be who you are because dating is a sometimes a larger aspect of being out the real you and making life more exiting along the way. Change things up, leave behind what didn’t work and think ‘fuck it’ do something that scares you but makes you feel relief you gave it a chance.
7. You listen to others too much
Listening to others stories about their dating disasters may have put you off for good in your lifetime but this doesn’t have to be the case. Every dating experience may In turn seem but its actually not the case. Everyone is different, we have our likes and dislikes and others may or may not like us for them but its doesn’t make us faulty. Sometimes the only was to fully judge an experience for yourself is to actually commit to the act and behold the wonders of what dating may have for you. Try to escape this facade that others control your love life when really you are in charge and become the bad ass botch of dating you were meant to be!
8. Boost you confidence
Dating is actually the best confidence boost you can do for yourself, even if it doesn’t work out. You made the first step and took initiative to get back out there, not to make yourself exposed and vulnerable but to learn that you are in control and sometimes you call the shots. Its also a great way to get to know people. Its not always plain sailing and sometimes can knock you back but the learning from it all can make you a better person to know what you actually want out of this whole dating game. Become the confident sexy induvial that you know exists within and bring him or her out, bring what you can and what you want to the table. This is the great aspect of dating in general you are the one on control and its either for you or isn’t but in 2018, bring out the confident you and show them off to the world.
9. Why not an Ex?
This is a tricky one because we aren’t all friends with our exes and not al of us would have one kind word to say fro our own mouths never mind our family’s opinions. You don’t have to necessary date your ex but at least work with each other and if your lucky you may become friends. Hep each other out and speak to each other about what you did and didn’t like about when you were dating. Sometimes going back to your ex (after leaving on good terms) might be good to catch up on how you both may have changed and what you could improve on? The will offer honest advice and hopefully would benefit you both for the upcoming year ahead to improve your dating game. This isn’t one for all but take it as it comes you would hope that each can still help each other in an adult way, after all it’s the season to forgive and move on, learn and grow to become better people.
10. Finding someone who challenges you
What I mean by someone who challenges you is from dating you may find someone whose different, they challenge you to be a better person in turn can make great changes in your life. Those changes aren’t selfish and they may not be the love of your life but they bring out your best as you do for them, for once someone who works with you rather than against you. Its like pushing a pull door and can sometimes be frustrating but in the end you wouldn’t have been there if it wasn’t for you pushing yourself to date. You’ll learn a lot more this way and it can be good, bad or plain weird but that’s life, full of wonder.