Knowing when to do things in relationship is really difficult. Lots of relationships end because people move at different paces. No two people are the same and no two people will have the exact same thoughts and feelings. If they did, they would be robots and would probably not live a life as happily as a non-robot. If you want to try and keep your relationship happy and healthy, then communication is the basic key to know when to say I love you and what you need to say.
When you first get into a relationship you are so into all of the new things around you.
You are infatuated by your new partner: you are infatuated by their smell, by their fashion, by everything. This isn’t love though, this might just only be lust and liking. This is definitely too soon to say I love you.
A bit later on in your relationship, you start to notice things that maybe you don’t like as much.
The way they leave their shoes in the living room. Or how they’ll leave wet towels in a pile. These things might annoy you at first, but as you get to know your partner more, you’ll start to accept and maybe enjoy these little annoyances. This is when you know you might be falling for them.
Further on in the relationship, you might have your first fight.
If they don’t walk away, there’s a reason. If you don’t walk away, there’s a reason. Fights, although often nasty and saddening can often help to show you how you feel about your partner. If you and your partner are a strong couple, the love you have for each other will come through.
Saying I love you in a relationship can make you very vulnerable in front of your partner.
If you are still in a new relationship, this vulnerability might cause a shift in the power of the relationship and if your partner isn’t ready to hear it or say it back. It could cause issues for the two of you. Of course, you want to be open and vulnerable in your relationship so that you can be who you are and experience new things. But in a new relationship, you also have to prepare yourself for getting hurt.
If you or your partner does say that they love you and you don’t say it back.
You have to understand firstly, that that is okay and not your fault. And secondly, that your reaction might hurt your partner and you have to be able to tell them how you do feel and why. Communication in any relationship is necessary for it to succeed.
Only you will know when it is the right time to tell your partner you love them.
You know your relationship and what you and your partner have been through. It’s okay to say it fast and it’s okay to say it slow. So long as you mean it when you say it and you say I love you to the right person.
It is so much worse to tell someone you love them just because you think they want to hear it.
If you don’t love someone, that is okay. You need to sure for yourself and if your partner is scaring you into thinking a certain way, then that is a form of emotional abuse and you shouldn’t take it. You are you and only you know what you need.