Sexual expression is a vital part of our identity. Who we decide to spend our lives with and become is unbelievably important, it changes us for the better or worse and can make you so happy when you find the right person. However, being truthful to who you are with your identity and sharing that with others is so important to developing yourself as a person, and sharing that with your best friend is one of the most important steps! Here are 5 tips to make coming out to your best friend not as hard as you think!
1. Tell Them When The Time Is Right
This is one of the most important things in this whole article! This is a time to be selfish about yourself, you should feel absolutely comfortable with yourself and your decisions before you decide to let the world change who you think you should be. That’s not to say that you can’t be unsure and confused, I think everyone is when they are discovering about their sexuality, just make sure that you’re happy to let your best friend in on the information if you’re not ready then work on yourself and tell them when you ARE ready. This is your decision, you always need to remember that!
2. Introduce Your Partner As Your Friend First
This is a tip for anyone that you are introducing your girlfriend/boyfriend to for the first time! Set up a casual meeting for you, your partner and your best friend so you can all get to know each other without it being awkward or have expectancies. Your best friend will want to get to know the person that is most important in your life, whether that be another ‘friend’ before they are officially anything more! This will make coming out to your best friend easier.
3. Make Sure Your GF/BF Is Right For You
If you are lucky to already have met someone, a girlfriend or boyfriend, make sure they have your best interests at heart. Your best friend will see someone’s pure intentions always before you do, and you have to make sure that they are right for you. Your best friend should always tell you their thoughts and support you through anything, but to be happy with someone is paramount for you to start accepting your own decisions and be proud of who you are and who you have become!
4. You Don’t Have To Be Sure
Society has expectations and labels ready to be attached. One of the best tips for coming out to your best friend or your parents is that you don’t have to be entirely sure! You don’t have to tell people exactly what category you might fit into (gay, bisexual, lesbian etc.) because there aren’t any categories! You are the only person you have to live with for the rest of your life so make sure that you don’t box yourself into a corner, be happy with the decisions you make and your life will be much more positive! Take everything one step at a time, it might be that you have feelings for someone unexpected, go with them and you could be introducing yourself to one of the best people you’ve ever met!
5. In The End, They Want The Best For You
In the end, you became best friends because you want the best for each other! Don’t forget this when you are scared or nervous to tell them something, they will only want the best for you to make you happy! You know that you will always accept their decisions no matter what (maybe not another tequila in the club) and want them to be comfortable with their choices so they should do the same to you! Once you are happy and positive to tell them then you can start being happier and more positive in your own body, it is so much better when you have their support around the situation and might even be more confident to tell more people! You should be proud of the person you are becoming!
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