You’ve probably heard it a million times. Family, friends, maybe even strangers, asking “Why don’t you have a significant other?” Your parents are wondering when you’re going to start popping out grandchildren. Hold up, say what? Yeah, it’s crazy to think we have this expectation of us and everybody is just so nosy about what’s going on in your love life. It’s getting pretty old and you are probably running out of reasons to explain why you’re not dating anyone. If you need a few, here’s a list of what to tell people when they ask you why you don’t have a significant other.
I like being single
I know you may be thinking that I am probably in denial, but being single has a lot of pros, which you’ll see in some of the following statements for why you don’t have a significant other.
I need time to focus on myself
Being in a relationship entails being there not only for yourself but also for another person. If you need time to take care of yourself and focus on what’s best of you, this is a completely valid reason for why you don’t have a significant other.
I don’t want to be tied down
Following along the same lines as the statement above, you don’t want anyone to hold you back or take away time that you could be using for yourself, making it understandable as to why you don’t have a significant other.
I’m trying to pursue my own goals
If you really have a goal in mind and are completely determined to reach it and can’t have any distractions, this is a fair reason to why you are choosing to be single. At the end of the day, this is your life and you should do whatever you need to do to get where you want to be.
I’m still young
This is the excuse I use most often, but it is about to get old real fast. Saying, “I’m still young” entails that you still have a lot more years to find someone until you have to “settle down.” But the truth is, the years are going by pretty fast and sooner or later (by choice of course), you’re going to have to start finding someone if you want to have kids and a family.
I’m too busy/I don’t have time
Being in a relationship can take a lot of time commitment. Finding time to hang out, go on dates, talk to each other, etc., can be hard to do if you both have busy schedules. However, if you meet someone, you have to make a choice of whether or not they a worth making time for in your life.
No one likes me
Even though I don’t agree with this statement, this is sometimes the easy mindset of pity and self-loathing we may find ourselves in. Of course, it is not true that “no one likes you,” you probably just don’t like or want to give a chance to the people who do.
There’s isn’t anyone I’m interested in
Perhaps this is true, but I honestly doubt it. I think a lot of it comes with luck in meeting someone your interested in. Maybe you just have to pry a little bit deeper, find out their likes and dislikes. Who knows maybe you’ll find something interesting.
I’m too good for any of the people I’ve been seeing
Now this is what I call confidence. You’re high-strung and are probably the type of person that thinks you are better than everyone else. If you’re looking for a relationship and keep up this attitude, you probably won’t be finding anyone soon. Be open and positive.
I’m waiting for the one
There’s so many people out there in the world, you can’t just spend your time waiting for the one. Meet different people and experience what it’s like to be with them. Often times, the one won’t come to you, you have to put yourself self out there and maybe along the way, you’ll meet that special someone.
I’m too picky
Having too many criteria for a significant other can make dating difficult. Sometimes you have to compromise some of the qualities on your list. You probably won’t find anyone who checks out perfectly, but relationships aren’t perfect and that’s what makes them worthwhile.
All the good people are already taken
Another statement that I don’t agree with. There are literally so many people out there in the world, you just have to keep an eye out.
I don’t need someone else to make my life complete
Yes! Times are changing. Women, you do not need a man to be successful or to define your worth. You have the power to control your life and make a name for yourself on your own terms.
I’m too lazy
I’m pretty sure I’ve said this before. This ties into the reason of not having time. Like I said, relationships require some sort of time commitment. If you aren’t willing to put in the effort, don’t play with other people’s feeling when they could be with someone else that cares more.
I have friends, I don’t need a significant other
Yes, you have friends to hang out with and you know they’ve got your back no matter what, but sometimes a significant other can be more than just a lover, they can also become your best friend.
I have a hard time connecting with people
Perhaps you have a hard time putting yourself out there. Maybe you are new to the area or are a shy person. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you want to find someone, be confident in yourself and people will gravitate toward you.
I don’t even know where to start
This goes along with the statement before this. Literally start anywhere. Make mistakes, learn from them. There’s no rule book to follow when it comes to meeting new people and dating, just do you.
I like being independent
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean that you can’t be independent. Relationships aren’t meant to be controlling. From being in a relationship, you not only learn about and learn from your partner, but you can also learn a lot about yourself.
I have trust issues
Perhaps your last relationship ended in a really bad break up, maybe they cheated on you or your relationship was toxic. You don’t want to be in a relationship because you don’t want to experience that pain and hardship again. But the thing is, you shouldn’t judge someone based on your past relationships.
Maybe I do have one and I just don’t want to tell you
For those who are a little more snarky, this statement is for you. The reason for you being single or in a relationship is yours to share and none of their business.
I just don’t want to be in a relationship
Short, simple and sweet. Tell it like it is, you shouldn’t need to elaborate on your reasons if you don’t want to for why you don’t have a significant other.
Why does it even matter if I have a significant other or not?
Avoiding the question with another question is also a great response. Why are people always so interested in whether or not you are with someone? There’s more to a person than what their relationship status is. Ask questions about what they’ve been up to or what they’re interested in before automatically asking about a significant other.
Whether you’re single or in relationship, it’s your choice and neither option is a bad one. You shouldn’t let others judge you based on what’s best for you.