At one point or another in our life, we all have ignored the glaring red flags that try to steer us clear from dealing with that no-good guy that is literally going to waste our time. For whatever the reason, we Speedy Gonzalez past the signs and give our all to Mr. No-Good. Then, we have the nerve to get upset and cry like we didn’t already foresee him wasting our time. Ladies, we must do better. I am 100% guilty myself of ignoring the glaring red flags. So, in an effort to help my fellow ladies avoid the same mistake, I have come up with 5 signs you’re too good for him and to realize he’s just going to waste your time sis.
1. You’re Giving Relationship Benefits without Being in an Actual Relationship.
You’re cooking for him, doing his laundry, buying him “just because” gifts BUT – you guys aren’t officially together. Plus, there is no reciprocity where he does all this for you as well. Ladies listen, (insert deep sigh), DO NOT GIVE A MAN ANY RELATIONSHIP BENEFITS IF HE CANNOT COMMIT TO YOU! I had to type in all caps so you all can truly hear me. Any man that truly wants you, will have zero problem being committed to you. It really is that simple.
2. You Initiate All Communication.
Any man that is fully interested in a woman, is going to want and know how to communicate with her effectively. If you are the one that is always hitting him up first and checking in on him, then control-alt-delete that man from your life NOW! Of course, there is nothing wrong with texting or calling first, however, if that is always the case then something isn’t right a.k.a. he isn’t right.
3. You Plan All the Outings.
If he is always trying to just “Netflix and chill” with you instead of saying “hey, you hungry? Let’s go to dinner”, then he isn’t the one sis. You shouldn’t constantly have to suggest and plan dates for you two. Any man that is really wanting to get know a woman and build with her, will most certainly want to take her out. If he doesn’t have some type of handicap that makes him embarrassed to be around people, then don’t pursue anything further with him.
4. You Take into Account His Feelings but What About Yours?
When you find yourself constantly having to be sympathetic to his feelings, yet he isn’t the same to yours, then you need to show him to the door. Never let anyone downplay what you are feeling nor tell you how your feelings are wrong! Your feelings should always be valued and understood.
5. Your intuition is telling you to let him go.
Our intuition is NEVER wrong. God gave us women the magnificent power of knowing when something is off. You will most certainly know when you are being too good to someone and wasting your time. Do not, I repeat DO NOT ignore your intuition. We have one for a reason and if we listen to it more often, it would save us from A LOT of heartbreak and soaked pillows.
Ladies, I am not saying anything that you do not already know. If that man is playing games with your heart and emotions, tell his ass Boy Bye! Cue: Beyonce’s “Sorry”
Can you think of anymore signs you’re too good for him? Let us know in the comments!
Kennisha is currently studying at Southern New Hampshire University to obtain her bachelors in Creative Writing. She is an avid lover of art and poetry. Her favorite word is "create" because she feels the word "represents the endless possibilities and marvelous creations the mind can conjure".