Figuring out a relationship is never easy. Sometimes it is hard to tell where it is going. Here are ten signs that your relationship might be going nowhere.
1. There Is No Spark
You know when you meet someone and you feel that fire in your belly? That is the spark. It is when you find someone who makes you feel excited and content. If you don’t feel that, it’s likely that this person isn’t for you.
2. You Don’t Trust Each Other
Trust is everything in a relationship and without it, you are on the highway to heartbreak. Ask yourself, do you trust them? When they go out with their friends, do you secretly worry that they are cheating on you? Also, do they trust you? Do they make a big song and dance out of you being away from them? If so, your relationship is going nowhere.
3. They Won’t Talk About The Future
Obviously discussing marriage and babies on the first date is a good way to scare off your new flame, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk about the future. What do you both want out of life? These ideals need to match, or at least you both must be willing to compromise. If they will not talk to you about their future, chances are they do not see you in it.
4. You Don’t Feel Happy
Relationships take work and no relationship will be 100% sunshine and rainbows all the time – but it should not feel like a chore either. Your partner should make you happy and help bring out the best in you. If that is not the case, it might be time to call it quits.
5. You Are Not Making Time For Each Other
This is a clear sign that things are not working. Everyone has different schedules and priorities and a good relationship will work around that. However, if you realise that spending time with your partner is at the bottom of your to-do list, then the relationship is going nowhere. Likewise, if your partner is not making time for you despite you asking them repeatedly, then they are not really that invested in the relationship.
6. You Are Keeping Your Guard Up
If you have been burnt by love before it can be hard to let someone new into your heart. That said, after a while, you should feel comfortable enough with your partner to open up to them about your feelings. If you don’t feel capable of doing that, ask yourself why. Is it because you’re afraid, or is it because they are not the right person?
7. You Never Hear From Them
People can be busy and not everyone is allowed to use their phone during working hours, but that does not stop them from calling or texting during their free time. It only takes seconds to send a quick “Hey! How are you?” message. If they can’t even do that, your relationship is probably not going anywhere.
8. You Do Not Agree On Anything
Partners don’t agree on everything, that would be weird. When you don’t agree on anything, though, it’s a warning sign. If one of you is constantly criticising the other, or one of you is always having to compromise on your opinions, it suggests an unhealthy relationship. You want to be with someone who sees the world the same way you do, not someone who judges you for your thoughts.
9. You Have Not Met Their Family
This is not always a bad sign. If someone has a bad relationship with their family, it makes sense that they would want you to keep your distance. However, if your partner spends a lot of time with their family but never invites you along, this is not good. It suggests that they do not see the relationship lasting long term.
10. It Doesn’t Feel Like A Relationship
Sometimes a relationship is fun and full of laughs. You enjoy spending time with them and they tag you in hilarious memes. Eventually, you realise, though, that it does not feel like a relationship. It’s more like a friendship. If you don’t feel as though you could be in love with them, it’s a pretty clear sign that the relationship isn’t going anywhere.