You can talk and talk and talk, you can talk about all of your problems over and over again, but there comes a time where talking just isn’t enough anymore. If nothing is changing and nothing’s being done about it – then what else can you do? If you’re both willing to work and make a change – great! If not, then why put yourself through it? If you are unhappy and constantly questioning your relationship and yourself, it’s time to do something about it. Here are 6 signs you need to break up with him.
1. You Don’t Trust Your Partner
Trust is the most important element in a relationship. If you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything. Some people may disagree and feel their love for them is enough. To a certain degree, I agree. But, on the other hand, I don’t. Being in a relationship with no trust will ruin you and the relationship. At first, you think you can deal with it, and eventually you will learn to trust him again. But this isn’t always the case. Not being able to sleep because your worried about what he’s doing and who he’s with, your heart dropping every time his phone goes off and not believing a word he says. This is not a healthy relationship, your boyfriend should not make you feel that way, they should not make you question them, your relationship or most importantly, yourself.
2. There Is No Effort
Don’t get me wrong, I know for a relationship to work and be healthy you need your own space and time to do your own thing – you can’t constantly be together. But, if your partner never puts any effort in to see you, or even contact you, then what’s the point? Even when you are together, if they’re more concerned about what’s happening on twitter or scrolling through Instagram, then you need to have a serious conversation with them and yourself. This can also be vice versa, if you’re the one who isn’t putting the effort in, then you need to ask yourself, why?
3. You Are Second Guessing
If you have to second guess the relationship, and you’re always doubting it – then is it really what you want? We all have those off days, the ones where you could literally punch your partner, in the face, repeatedly. The days where our partner annoys us so much to the point where we snap. But that’s as far as it should go. Second guessing the relationship and constantly questioning if it is what you want, really means that you don’t actually want it.
4. You Question Yourself
It’s one thing questioning the relationship, but it’s another thing questioning and doubting yourself. What am I doing wrong? Maybe its me? No, it’s not you. Things happen in life that we don’t want to happen, and we dread the day it does. But sometimes, things happen with no explanation. People change and feelings change. If your feelings have changed towards your partner, don’t question yourself, don’t blame yourself. Truth is, it’s no ones fault, sometimes people simply grow a part from each other.
5. Follow Your Gut
Are you having doubts? Is your gut trying to tell you something? Is something not quite right? You have to think to yourself; what are causing these doubts? Why do I feel different about my partner? If deep down you know it’s not right for you, then follow your gut. You know within yourself what you truly want. Be strong – admit it to yourself and to your partner.
6. Doesnt Want To Spend Time With You
Sometimes, it’s not all about the other person. Sometimes, it can be you. Do you dread spending time with your partner? Do you find yourself putting things off? Would you rather spend all your time with your friends? If so, then this is unfair on both of you. You’re putting yourself though something you don’t have to be in.
But on the other hand, it can also be your partner who is isolating you from his life. Is your partner keeping you separate? Does he not want you to spend time with his friends? These are all questions you need to ask yourself and your partner. When you’re in a relationship, you’re supposed be a team. You should want to go through life together and you should want to make memories together.