It’s hard to detect when a relationship is going south, especially when you are so engulfed in the person you’re with. But most of us start to get that gut feeling that warns us when something is not right. A common mistake most of us make is ignoring that gut feeling. Always trust your gut. Always. It may be hard to face the facts because you don’t want to end the relationship, but when the red flags start to go up, it’s time to do some serious thinking. Staying in a toxic relationship is damaging. It will eat you up inside before you’re even aware it’s happening. So here are some of those red flags to look out for if you think you may be in a toxic relationship.
1. Everything revolves around him.
He dumps all his problems on you and never cares enough to ask you what’s going on in your life, or even listen to you when you have something important to share. You are expected to be there for him and comfort him when he needs it, but he doesn’t do the same for you.
2. You feel like nothing you do is good enough for him.
If he makes you feel this way, then you are definitely in a toxic relationship. A toxic person will try to put you down, even if he disguises it through insults or passive aggressive comments. He will try to destroy your self esteem to benefit his own ego.
3. You are always on his schedule.
You don’t see your own family or friends much anymore because he expects you to be with him whenever he wants, which is probably a lot. He will make you feel guilty for having a girls night, when he has guys nights all the time. This is the sign of someone is who controlling you. Another major red flag is if he drags you to hang out with all of his friends but refuses to go out with yours. A relationship requires compromises, so if he isn’t willing to do what you are doing for him, then he’s not worth your time.
4. You don’t laugh anymore.
The person you’re with should do nothing but make everyday lively. If your partner is toxic, you will start to subconsciously become less energetic and happy because he is sucking so much life out of you. You should always be laughing and smiling with him, not walking on eggshells in fear that you will screw up or make him upset. When you begin to lose that spark inside you, that’s when you lose yourself. That’s when you know it’s time to move on.
5. He doesn’t like your friends..and he tells you so.
No, no, no. MAJOR red flag. If he doesn’t like your friends, that’s one thing, but if he is telling you that, tell him goodbye. This is not only disrespectful to you, but it’s immature. He should make an effort to get to know your friends because these are the people who are important to you. Friends have a sixth sense when it comes to judging boys, so if they don’t like him that is a huge warning sign that you should reevaluate your relationship.
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