Toxic friendships are sometimes tricky to identify, but they are never good for you. Life is simply too short to spend it with people who bring you down. The world is really stressful and scary sometimes, so the people around you should be there to ease that stress, not add to that. It is also super important to surround yourself with the type of people do not bring out the best in you. Basically don’t settle for toxic relationships because you don’t deserve that. Here are 10 reasons why you need to end toxic friendships immediately.
1. There are better people out there.
There are almost 7.6 billion in the world. If you are unhappy with the friendships you have and they have a negative impact on your mental health there is no reason to hold onto them. Yes, ending friendships can be hard, but finding new ones will be so good for you! There is absolutely no reason for you to have toxic friendships when there are so many awesome people in the world. Get out there and find the people that you vibe with and make you happy. Being in a toxic friendship doesn’t necessarily mean you’re toxic people. It just means you are people who aren’t good for you. Go find the people who are good for you.
2. It will help you be yourself.
Being in a toxic friendship will often make you adjust your natural behavior. This doesn’t mean you’re being fake, but you aren’t being truthful to who you are. Being in a toxic friendship means you’re in a relationship that doesn’t support you and who you really are. Because of this, you might be forced to change who you are to try to preserve the relationship. This sucks! Don’t change who you are for other people! Your uniqueness is what makes you awesome! Don’t hide that for anyone. You do you sister.
3. It will help you build self confidence.
When you are constantly hiding who you are for other people, it is really easy to get comfortable hiding yourself. Because you aren’t being your genuine self, it will be harder to be confident sharing yourself with people who are actually good for you. One of the saddest parts of toxic friendships is when it takes a toll on how you feel about yourself. Do not let anybody think you are not perfect exactly the way you are. Find people who embrace your true self and boost you for it! We should be celebrating each other, not wrecking each other’s confidence.
4. To be treated the way you think you deserve.
If you are in a toxic friendship, you are not being treated the way you deserve. Period. There is no arguing this! If you feel like your relationship with someone else is bringing you down rather than boosting you up, you are not being treated the way you deserve to be treated. Do not settle for any less than you deserve. Find the people that understand you and your needs. People have different expectations for each other, so find people who have values that align with yours.
5. You’ll attract better people.
Once you dump your toxic friendships you will be able to find better people! You will know exactly what you need from your friendships and will be able to spot red flags right away. You might not find these people at first, but be patient. Good people will come your way. If you are honest with yourself about what you need and deserve, you will be able to able to find those kinds of people much more easily. Knowing what you need from other people is the key to getting it.
6. It will be good for your mental health.
Being in a toxic friendship will definitely take a toll on your mental health. You will feel down on yourself and be unhappy with what your life looks like. After a while these feelings will catch up with you. Do not let a toxic friendship wreck your mental health. Self care is so important and you cannot be in relationships that are hurting you mentally. You have other things to worry about. Friends are supposed to be the people that help your mental health. You have no room in your life for people that do not build you up.
7. You’ll grow so much.
You will be so much better off without toxic friendships. You will be able to be more real with yourself and be comfortable with who you are and who you want to be. Getting rid of expectations from toxic friendships will help you realize what your personal expectations are with no influence from people who don’t have your best interest in mind.
8. You’ll realize what you need from future friendships.
Realizing your needs and admitting them to yourself it total growth. It is a very mature thing to do and it will help make it easier for you to do this in the future. Be real with yourself about your expectations and surround yourself with people who can make that happen!
9. You will learn about yourself.
Does anybody really know who they really are? We are all trying to figure this out. That can be really hard to do when you have toxic friendships in your life. Take some time to focus on yourself and you will be shocked as to what you find out. Go get to know you,
10. You will be so much happier.
At the end of the day, ditching toxic friendships will leave you so much happier than you would be if you kept them. It will hurt at first to lose a friend, but in the long run you’ll be so much better because of it. You’ll have so much more confidence and happiness, which is super awesome! Don’t hold on to friendships because you feel like you have to. Think about what is best for you and do it! Go get that happiness! You deserve it.
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My name is Kayleigh Hughes and I am a senior at the University of Arkansas majoring in Communication. I'm just a 20-something college student trying to figure everything out like everybody else. I love to travel, sing, and adventure. I'm just here trying to do everything that makes me happy.