Being chosen as the maid of honor is a truly special gift. You are bestowed a literal honor and you get to be there for one of the most important people in your life. Even though it is a lot of fun, it also requires a lot of work. Here are some basic maid of honor etiquette tips you should know.
1. You Need Checklists
As maid of honor you are going to be in charge of many areas. Once the bride has set a date, adhering to deadlines is of the utmost importance. It is your job to make sure everything is check off for the big day and that you don’t end up with an awkward gap at the ceremony. Getting organized from the start will help you succeed as the maid of honor and will show that you are up for the challenge.
2. The Go-To Person For Assistance Is You
In addition to keeping the bride as stress-free as possible, you will also be the wealth of information for the entire bridal party. The maid of honor is faced with numerous emails, phone calls, and RSVP cards so it is best to be prepared for all of this. A lot of jokes are made about the bride carrying around big binders of information, but this is something you should invest in! From venues to food and proper attire, everything is going to be pointed in your direction. You need to be as informed as the couple is in the entire wedding process. If someone needs an answer, you can give it to them! Don’t worry, you also get to have the glamorous jobs like holding the bride’s bouquet and helping her get ready.
3. Party Planning
It is important that you play an important role in the party planning process but taking sole control is not a requirement (you are not to become a MOH-zilla). Discuss with the bride early on to decide if a bridal shower and bachelorette party are on the table. You don’t want to waste time and begin second-guessing on what you are able to pull together. Be prepared to research party games, easy to follow recipes, and making countless trips to the party supply store. Remember that this is all for your girl, so you can do this maid of honor!
4. In Case Of Emergency
The maid of honor is in charge of being prepared in case anything goes wrong. From packing snacks for the bride, an “emergency kit”, and having drivers ready to go the list is endless. There are mishaps that seem to happen at every wedding and it is not your job to panic, you should be prepared for the bride.
5. Emotional Support
Throughout all the events and planning, it can be an incredibly overwhelming time. This important person in your life is preparing for a life transformation and you may need to be that shoulder to cry on. As the maid of honor, it is important to be honest and supportive. You were chosen for this job because your opinion is valuable, and everyone should be on the same page. No matter how difficult things get, you can get through it.
6. Calm The Storms
Tensions can run high during the wedding planning process and even at the ceremony itself. The maid of honor is supposed to remain levelheaded and bring conflict resolution easily. You are essentially the last line of defense before the wedding party causes havoc so make sure to get any of your bubbling emotions out so you can provide peace!
Maid of Honor is a challenging position, but it is always worth the struggle. What are your maid of honor tips? Tell us in the comments!
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Rebecca was born in Hayward, CA and still resides there today. She received her BA in English Creative Writing from San Francisco State University and is the first in her family to graduate from university. She is a Poetry student in the MFA program at Saint Mary’s College of California and is furthering her involvement in the literary community. In her spare time, she likes to lose her voice at Giants games, read Young Adult novels, make lists, and aims to cross become a writer off it.