I can’t put an exact date on when, but if I were to I’d say that since I was 17 all my close friends starting to be primarily women. I still have a few male friends that are great and I don’t know where I’d be without them, but the ratio in my friend group tends to lean more towards females. In this article, I am going to (attempt) to dissect as to why this is the reason, but I know one thing. Most of my friends are women and I love it.
1. I prefer the things we do when we hang out
You know what my ideal night with friends is? Sitting cross-legged on a mattress while we split a bottle of wine (or 2). A lot of men think the way to get over something that’s bothering you is to just rage (do people still say that?) and forget about it for a night. I’m different and prefer discussing whatever is bothering me over the red or white nectar of the gods because otherwise I’d internalize all those feelings and it would eat away with me. I do this a fair amount with my female friends and it’s great. Even if they don’t agree with me, they are nonetheless understanding and just provide a good night of destressing and remind me that I have a good support system.
2. I’m a sensitive person
I’ve always been a tad soft when it comes to my emotions. I tend to overthink basically everything which in return makes me an emotional mess that is prone to feeling sad. In my experiences, my female friends have been the best at understanding that and now how to handle that well. They listen and allow me to vent for countless hours with providing solid advice or just sit there without injecting and let me just put it all out in the open. I know that this is basically the reason as the one before, but being a sensitive male and having people that don’t shame you for it (my male friends don’t do this by the way) is really a great thing to have.
3. It helps me realize what I want in a friend
There is still a stigma with men and women being just platonic friends. Some people still hold some skepticism on whether there are actually other motives to the friendship. While that may be the case in some instances, in others they are just regular friends. That being said, being friends with girls has helped me realize what I want in a friend. Having both male and female friends has allowed me to remove gender entirely and look at the person themselves. I’d say that, along with just getting older, has helped me select the best group of people that I could surround myself with.
4. I don’t know, I just love it
In the end, even with trying to dissect and give reasons as to why I enjoy having the majority of my friends being female, I just enjoy it. Maybe it’s because I am so close to my mom growing up, maybe it’s for another reason I have yet to realize. I just know that my eccentric and sometimes flamboyant personality has always been more attractive to girls (not in a sexual way) and that I’ll probably always have more female friends than male friends. It doesn’t bother me and as long as I have, you know, friends in general I think I’ll be able to make it through the rest of my life.