The key to success is to stay focused on what you want to accomplish or wish to improve. This is definitely easier said than done but it is not an impossibility. It is easy to have our focus clouded by things that happen around us whether it be drama with friends, mental health problems, or simple discouragement it is good to remember that it is okay if you fail at times. This means that even if there is a period where you cannot seem to get anything done that the important thing is that you keep trying.
Learn how to emotionally deal with things.
Part of what makes it so challenging to get our self-confident and drive up again is feeling like there will never be another chance. If you did not get the job that you interviewed for you will definitely feel a lot of weight and guilt for not getting this job. Your energy gets turned back onto yourself as the problem and you start a destructive pattern of seeing yourself as the problem. However, in all reality, there are several things that come in to play and sometimes you need to trust that things happen for the best.
When you reach a part where things are not going as planned and you feel as if you have tried everything things really start to feel hopeless. The thought of giving up passes your mind several times and you start to feel as if the world is conspiring against your success. Why is it that nothing seems to work. The best way to fix this seems contradictory but you will need to find a way to escape everything.
Take a step back.
When your mind is stuck constantly thinking of ways to fix yourself, thinking, and what you do it is important to remember that we can be our own worst critic. Try to take several steps back and realize that maybe you’re going about things the wrong way. When you start to lose your focus try to not think too much about having the perfect outcome or what that outcome might be.
Work your way around distractions.
This means trying to find a rhythm that allows you to keep going with all things that can distract you taken into consideration. You will have to prepare your mind for things that can come along the way that can distract, discourage, or simply bring negativity into your life. Sometimes the reason why we become distracted on the things that we want is that we thought that things were going to be “easier.” However, life is not easy but it is not supposed to be impossible either.
Know what works for you.
Being honest with yourself and knowing what are the things that tend to bring you away from your goals is the first step to resolving this issue. For example, if I know I tend to worry a lot I know that I should that take things too seriously if it is not something that is a big deal. That is to say that I am a sensitive person and know this can help me better navigate through relationships or interactions with people. I can stay focused on my goals without feeling the need to dwell on negative thoughts that bring discomfort.
Overall be prepared and keep trying.
Always keep in mind that you will fail several times and even if you do there should be no reason for you to give up. The biggest mistake people make is losing vision of what they once thought they were capable of doing because of a loss in confidence, encouragement, or hope. The best thing that you can do is built a mind map of what you can work around potential backlashes, drama, mental health issues or whatever might be the case. Be mentally and emotionally prepared to keep striving for your goals to prove to yourself that you are capable of achieving them.