So you’re wondering how does one stop caring so much about what people think about them and just be their unique self, living unapologetically? If you’re anything like me, you’ve been envious of those people forever and wish you could just easily adopt this carefree mindset and lifestyle. Don’t expect this to change overnight, it’ll take some time to adjust to where you really aren’t thinking about what people are thinking of you. If you are feeling drained from trying to fit in, worried about how people perceive you, worry too much if someone likes you – anything like this – then it’s past time for you to make some changes and lead your best life, on your own terms. Here are some ways to care less about what people think of you and start living. Get ready to lead a more peaceful, drama-free life, surrounded by people who actually love you for who you are, and where you can do whatever you want without having to worry about what others are going to think.
They’re Not Thinking That Much About You
The first thing that you’re going to have to come to terms with is that people aren’t thinking that much about you. Seems kind of harsh but it’s a reality that is relaxing for the mind. You know in school when you’re waiting to go up in front of the class and present? And your mind is racing with worries about everyone’s eyes on you, what they’re going to think, and overall dread that everyone is going to be paying attention to you? While some may feed off this energy, for others, not so much. If there’s one thing that helped me get through this, it’s realizing that really, not everybody is going to be paying attention to you, that everyone is thinking about presenting themselves, and zoning out because this is the 10th person who’s presenting about the same topic and they’re beyond bored of it. Or when you’re in line at Starbucks and it’s just a complete awkward situation when ordering with the barista, it’s so comforting to think that they’re not going to remember you and stuff like that probably happens all the time. Once you can drill this in your brain that not everybody is thinking that much about, your life becomes a lot more freeing, less worrisome, and plenty peaceful.
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Take the Time To Get To Know Yourself
Chances are that when you’re constantly worried about what people are thinking of you, and trying to fit in, you start to lose sight of who you are as a person. The best thing you could ever do for yourself when you’re in this situation is to take a step back and get to know yourself and what you love. It’s easier said than done, but the outcome is outstanding. Remove yourself from this negative thinking and get back to your roots in a sense. Rediscover yourself by taking yourself out on a date, go the places you want to go, do what you want to do, and just enjoy this feeling that you’ve got yourself and as long as you have that, you’ll be okay. The pressure of everyone else’s opinion can get overwhelming so it can be refreshing to have some alone time, and just relax getting to know who you are again.
Cut Your Toxic Friends Out
Say goodbye to your “friends” that make you feel not good enough, judge you for who you are, or just impact you negatively. Nobody needs those toxic friends in their life. Be unapologetically yourself and you’ll attract the right group of people that adore you for who you really are. This is, again, easier said than done. This is a time in your life when you’re going to need to remain strong and lean on those people who are good in your life. You should be surrounded by people who care for, support, and just love to be your friend and having you in their life. And remember it’s about the quality of friends, not the quantity. You could have twenty acquaintances and no real friend that’s close to you. Find the right crowd and you’ll see how much happier you are.
Stop People Pleasing
One sign that you care too much about what people think of you is that you try to please everyone. You don’t say no to anyone or anything, you spread yourself thin trying to be in more than one place at a time, exhausting yourself because you have no boundaries created. It’s time to make yourself a priority; it’s impossible to please everyone, and try to make everyone in your life happy. Learn to say no and create your boundaries. Oftentimes, when people try to please everyone in their life, it makes them think way too much about what the other person thinks of them. You want them to like you so you’ll go out of your way to say yes to their every request. This isn’t healthy for you, it just means you’re getting taken advantage of. I bet that you’ll be feeling more free and less worried about what others think when you take a moment to pause and rethink your relationships with the people in your life. I’ll repeat it again: it’s impossible to please everyone, so stop trying. Give yourself more of your time and don’t think twice about it. If they’re upset with you, that’s their problem and they’ll have to accept these boundaries you put up.