How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex

How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex

Being intimate with your partner is everything in a relationship, and by intimate we don’t always mean sex. You may be waiting for the right person, saving yourself until marriage or just want to give sex a bit of a break and try out new things in your relationship. There does not have to be any sexual activity to get intimate and here are the ways that you can spice up your relationship without sex. You will be thanking us later as you and your significant other get a lot closer by following these suggestions and adding some sugar to your intimate life. 

Holding Hands

This is one of the most simple ways to get intimate with your lover. The act of holding each others hands is one of the most classic intimate moves and will make you feel really connected to each other. The touch and warmth of one another and also being able to play with each other’s fingers and having your significant other close to you with your hands interlinked will make you feel closer than ever. 

You don’t have to do this in public if it gives you a slight fear of PDA (public display of affection). You can do this in the comfort of your own home; sat on the sofa, laid in bed, going for a drive (do this with caution), on a walk together. Pick your spot and grab their hand. The simple act of reaching out will be the romance you may need. Intimacy at its finest. 

How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex

Couples Massage

Getting a massage from someone you love can be one of the most intimate things a couple can do. Grab some massage oil which you both like the smell of, or even a lotion if you don’t have time to go out and get some oil. Light some candles and dim the lights to create a nice vibe and a romantic setting. Both relax and make the night your own. Put on a nice film or some music to make you both at ease. Start with upper body and if you feel more comfortable work your way down. Don’t forget – you aren’t a masseuse so it doesn’t have to be perfect in any way! 

Massaging is a really easy and simple way to get intimate with someone if you make it intimate. Take your top off and rub oil on their back. Your touching sensation and the relaxation will be an intimate act that both of you will enjoy. You can also swap places so you can feel the relaxation sensation too. You may think that this is a sexual act, but it doesn’t need to be. You can keep it PG, it is what you make it. 

How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex

Eye Contact

Without eye contact, are you even in a relationship. Go out for dinner or drinks and sit across from each other and just simply look into each others eyes. Make it your first date all over again. Have a deep conversation or a light one and just look. Study one another’s faces. You don’t even have to touch your partner with this one. You needn’t go out either. You can stay in and cook a nice meal together. As long as you are looking into each others eyes then you are doing this one right! 

The key is to not make it awkward. Don’t over look or glance away in embarrassment. Keep your gaze but make it romantic. Flirt with your eyes! Practice in the mirror if you have to perfect your smize. Talk with your eyes and you are on your way. The great thing about this is that you don’t have to do anything out of the ordinary, you are just simply looking at each other. What is more romantic than eye contact? 

How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex

Shower/Bath Together

There is nothing better than coming home from a long day and hopping into a relaxing bubble bath. Have you tried doing this with the one you love? Intimacy at its finest. Run you both a bubble bath, get a relaxing shower gel and hop in together. Wash one another, play with each others hair and just chill. Melt into their arms. 

If your bath is too small or you don’t have a bath, then take a shower. It can be just as intimate. Turn up the heat (obviously not scalding hot) and hop in together. You can again wash and kiss under the falling water. If you are not comfortable seeing one another naked then maybe give this one a miss. But of course you don’t need to sexualise it. Just enjoy the touch and hot water together. Even a glass of wine in the bath or listening to your favourite music in the shower. Who said romance was dead?

How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex


Learning the art of kissing is a skill of a lifetime. You may not kiss the same as your partner so it is important to learn how they kiss and meet in the middle. Any excuse to kiss the one you love, right? Having a night in just kissing each other can sometimes be more passionate and thrilling than sex. It is the most intimate act of all and you will really begin to feel a connection between you both. Of course, not everyone kisses the same so you will have to get to know how your partner kisses and understand how you can make it work together. 

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If you have never kissed before then it is something you should do before you decide if they are the love of your life or not. It is an intimate action like no other. It highlights if there is a spark or not. A kiss in a relationship is everything and a good kiss is next level. Some say that a kiss is all you need to know if they are the one or not. 

How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex

Playing Music Together

For all the people who can sing or play a musical instrument, this one is for you. Pick a song (if you don’t have one already) that you both love or describes your relationship and sing or perform it. If you can’t sing to save your life but love to and are confident and comfortable to do it around your partner then go for it! It can be a really romantic gesture and very intimate if it is just you two and you are surrounded by your music. Something to try if you are thinking out of the box? 

How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex


I honestly think that kissing and cuddling are the most intimate things you can do as a couple and cuddling each other is a huge part of a relationship. Being next to the one you love and feeling their warmth against your skin is one of the best feelings in the world. You can do this in bed, on the sofa, just being next to your significant other is heart warming. 

Cuddling is important for both of you so take it in turns. It is more intimate that way. You will feel so close to each other with your bodies intertwined and the intimacy between you will be spreading. It is great to get cosy with one another and watch your favourite films or have pillow talk while in each others arms! Cosy and comfort is intimacy in its purest form. 

How To Be Intimate With Your SO Without Having Sex

Comment below how one of these tips helped spice up the intimacy in your relationship or share with your partner to mix up the intimacy in your life. 

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