A friend of mine recently had their first kiss, and they felt super insecure about their “kissing skills”. I thought it’d be a good idea to ask people what an ideal kiss was and wasn’t like. Full disclosure, this article is entirely based on the opinions of people I’ve polled, and my own. At the end of the day, to each their own. You kiss how you want to be kissed. The following tips are just based on multiple opinions!
Without further ado, if you’re self-conscious about your kissing abilities, worry no more! Here’s how to kiss someone so they come back wanting more:
The First Kiss
I’ve always thought the first kiss was the most important kiss because it establishes my first impression of our chemistry, and so have most of the readers answering the poll.
I asked around whether people preferred to be kissed with ~everything~ right away, or if they preferred to build the passion up over time. Most people have found that it’s about “wanting to come back for some more”, which made gestures such as pulling away and lingering popular first kiss techniques.
Personally, I believe it goes from person to person. My first kiss with someone might vary depending on the chemistry we’re having that day. With that in mind, I have found consensus regarding a few “do’s” and “don’t’s” regarding kissing. Here you go:
Generally A Bad Idea
Make sure to enjoy the kiss as it happens. Going in too fast or too forcefully can be a turn-off for many people. Related to leading too forcefully, it’s also important to realize that kissing shouldn’t be thought of only as a means to sex. Last rule of thumb is to avoid leading with tongue right off the bat. And when you do insert the tongue, make sure not to use too much tongue.
Now that we’ve talked about the 3 big no-no’s, let’s talk about the kissing tips which had unanimity of approval:
This triangle is not the easiest kissing technique to perform, but it’s great for any face to face sexual position. You kiss your partner in this order: lips, cheek, neck. Then neck and back to lips. This is how to kiss your partner in three different spots, while still making it feel natural.
The soft bite is all about nibbling on your partner’s lips. Don’t go in trying to squeeze their lips between your teeth, because you’re not trying to hurt them (unless they’re into it). Just slowly transition from kissing the lips to gently pressing your teeth down on your partner’s lips and pulling it away. You and your partner can always build it up the strength of the bites depending on how comfortable each one of you feels.
Remember to communicate about your likes and dislikes!
There also seemed to be a certain harmony of approval regarding ear action. Ear kissing, ear biting, and even ear sucking turn on most people since ears are considered to be really sensitive. This was a 50/50 issue, but some believe that nibbling on the earlobe adds a nice touch.
Alas, what everyone needs to know: how to kiss with tongue. I like to kiss without tongue when it’s a gentle, sweet kiss, and I like to play around with my tongue when things heat up. I’ve found that to be the most popular approach too. You gently add your tongue, and if you don’t fully grasp the concept of tongue kissing, you and your partner basically hug and caress each other with your tongues.
If you’re unsure, a good practicing technique is to kiss the back of your hand.
Well, that sums up my guide the of how to kiss someone so they come back wanting more!