It has almost become common sense that first years should enter freshman year single. No matter how steady a relationship is in high school, there is no saying as what is to happen in your freshman year of university. This is the year of self discovery and experimentation. No matter how sure you are of yourself upon entering university, everyone changes for better or worse. University is hard as it is without having to worry about someone else, I’m not saying that the single life is for everyone, but I am saying the single life is a hell of a lot of fun. Sometimes you can get lonely but if you follow these tips, you will have the year of your life.
1. Find a solid group of friends.
Find a solid group of people who are like-minded and willing to go out and have fun! Having a group of people that you can rely on for better or worse will not only prevent you from getting lonely, but they will also help you get out of your shell and meet new people!
2. Go out!
University is the time to go out and have fun, especially in first year! Go to different parties, bars, and clubs just to meet new people, even if you don’t find a love interest you will make new friends and have fun stories at the end of the night. If you do see someone who sparks your interest, don’t be afraid to go out and talk to them, the worst thing that can happen is a rejection, but that’s not the end of the world!
3. Be confident, not cocky!
There is nothing less attractive than a person who is completely self absorbed, but it is also not attractive when a person doesn’t believe in themselves and isn’t secure. There is a fine line between confident and cocky and that is where you want to be. You don’t need validation to know you’re an amazing person, but you must also recognize your flaws and remain humble.
4. Take this time to learn about yourself.
Being single is the perfect time to learn more about yourself, take this time to experiment and step out of your comfort zone, this will be extremely beneficial when you do finally decide to settle down. You want to be able to know exactly what you want and don’t want in a significant other, and there is no way to know that without testing the waters.
5. Don’t ever let people tell you how to act or how to feel.
Remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Some people will be a little more promiscuous and some will be more conservative, but it is important to make your own decisions. Don’t let the decisions or opinions of your friends dictate how you live your life, university is the time for self-exploration and testing the waters of your own judgment and morals. Remember that no one knows you better than yourself. If you choose to put yourself out there and be more wild, that is completely encouraged and okay, if you choose to stay a little more modest that is also okay, do whatever makes you happy!
6. Dress to impress…yourself.
Never dress to impress anyone but yourself, this is tied in with the confidence. Don’t wear anything that doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, or that you are not 100% comfortable in regardless of what people think. In university you will discover millions of different styles that you could rock, but at the end of the day there is nothing more sexy than confidence, so wear whatever you are most confident in and you will be okay!
Focus first and foremost on yourself, one of the perks of being single in university is that you don’t have to worry about another human, only yourself. Focus on getting to know yourself, focus on building strong and steady relationships with people, focus on school because at the end of the day you are in university for an education-and finally- focus on being happy!
Smile and be happy! University is full of amazing experiences and opportunities so don’t close yourself off to anything, step out of your comfort zone and live life on the edge! You never know whats going to happen after these 4 years are over, but these years are full of amazing stories and experiences if you open yourself up to them, don’t be scared to do anything!