Flirting is supposed to be easy, but it isn’t. Sometimes flirting doesn’t come naturally. Maybe, your crush is so intense you get butterflies when you want to talk to them. That’s completely okay; it happens to the best of us. This is why we made it so much easier for you by coming up with 12 best flirting tips to have them swooning for you.
Guys and girls both love, and we mean, love when the person they are talking to are confident. Be confident. I know easier said than done, but it can be done.
Steps to boost your confidence:
Groom yourself! Taking care of your physical appearance will make you feel good about yourself.
Warm yourself up for rejection. That’s the way of life, unfortunately. However, if you allow yourself to worry about rejection, your confidence will break.
If you’ve spoken before meeting up or you’re in a group of friends and find out a thing or two that you have in common, then strike up a conversation about it. Please, don’t pretend to like or know about something. It doesn’t help!
Don’t think you have to know their entire family in one night. Allow the conversation to flow naturally. If it dies, allow it, find something else to strike up a conversation, or excuse yourself. There is nothing worse than two people awkwardly standing near each other.
You might not think this is the type of flirting tips anyone should give, but it is. Asking questions shows that you are interested in who they are. Whether you are in a group hang or on a date with the said crush, ask them questions about them. They’ll appreciate that you are trying enough to get to know them.
Play with your lips
This is the ultimate flirt move we can give you advice for you to do.
First, make eye contact and give them a small smile. If they don’t come up to you or return your gaze, then move on. However, women, if they do return your gaze, then start to pout your lips by lowering it open – slightly. Bring the attention to your lips and allow him to know that you are interested without being too forward.
As for the men, smile, there is nothing more attractive than a great smile. Hell, if you want to be suggestive, you can bite your lips too. There’s nothing sexier than that.
Being in someone’s face every day, at all times of the hour, can kind of get annoying. However, playing it cool and coy will make the person you are interested in, go crazy. They’ll want to know what you are doing, what you enjoy in your free time, and genuinely want to pursue you.
However, the best thing about playing coy is that body language alone can work! If you have to work your way up to talking to your crush, then this the best way to start.
All you have to do is smile at them, flirt with your eyes, use body language like leaning a little closer to them, make sure to wear something you are confident in, play with your hair, and so much more other things. There is no right or wrong way to do something. Just don’t go overboard!
Don’t Play Too Many Games
Speaking of playing coy, don’t play too many games with the person you are interested in. Eventually, they will get sick of it. If they text you, respond when you see it, no need to “wait three days” before returning to them. Don’t flirt with anyone in front of the one you are trying to attract. It’s tacky. There is so much you can do to grab their attention; things like these are not one of them.
Don’t Shy Away From Talking To Them
If you are at school, the bar, or anywhere public, then go up and say hi. It is just an introduction – nothing more and nothing less. Who knows, maybe the directness is precisely what they are into. Remember, guys shouldn’t be the only ones who break the ice when it comes to flirting!
Let Them Catch You Looking At Them
All right, first off, put the crazy eyes away. We don’t need you drilling a hole into anyone’s head. We also know how scary it is to allow someone to catch you, “slipping.” Don’t turn away! Next time your crush turns to look in your direction, all you have to do is smile and maybe wink a little bit. The directness in that subtle movement is hot AF, and your crush will come running.
Okay, so when it comes to this specific flirty tip, it’s best when you know the person. You’ve hung out with them a couple of times, you’ve teased them, you talk all the time, and maybe you’ve done a couple of the things on this list. Nothing. Zilch. Nada. That happens, and it’s okay. Sometimes people just need a more direct approach. It’s scary and weird, but what happens if your crush is crushing on you too?
Okay, we feel like a quick disclaimer is needed. Please, unless you are familiar with this person in a friendlier term, do not invade their bubble. If you do know them, please be respectful of their space. If you see they don’t appreciate any form of touching, just stop.
With that being said, test the waters, stay close to them. Be close enough that you can accidentally brush an arm or talk without having to raise your voice. Have your body turned towards them so you can be faced directly in their direction.
If the conversation is flowing between you two, then allow your knees to touch ever so slightly. Act like you didn’t notice. However, if they move their knees or body, then take the hint and scooch backward! Remember, consent and respect go a long way with anyone!
Flirt Before You See Them
Have you been texting since you met them in class or the bar? Maybe you matched on Tinder and have moved onto texting. Whatever the case is, if you two decide to hang out and you want to go beyond the friend zone, then flirt through text. This is a lot less scary, and if they reciprocate, then you know exactly what to expect when you see them.
Cheesy Opening Line
Honestly, cheesy opening liners are the perfect flirty tip we can give you. Cheesy opening liners are cute, funny, classic, and, if said during the right time, a game-changer on how you want them to see you! It’s awkward, but trust us, they’ll appreciate the liner!
This is probably the easiest, and probably cutest flirty tip anyone can give you. It’s genuine and subtle enough that it isn’t weird. We all want to feel special, and if someone provides us with a compliment, it’ll bring a smile on our face.
When you are complimenting someone try aiming for something unique to your crush. We all have something. Maybe the girl you’re crushing on has gorgeous curls, let her know. Maybe that guy has a great sense of style? Let him know! Complimenting your crush doesn’t mean it has to be specific to their assets or their face. It can be anything.
Talking to someone is awkward, frustrating, and honestly, even the most confident people can come up short. However, we hope that at least one flirty tip managed to get you out there and have them swooning! If it did, tell us which suggestion you took in the comments!
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