I think we’ve all heard the lame “oops it was an accident” excuse too many times when it comes to accidental anal sex. Nobody likes being caught off guard, right? Try these anal sex tips for the girl next door who’s willing to try the back door.
1. Try It On Your Own First
Knowing your limits is extremely important when it comes to anal sex for beginners. Use you finger or anal sex toys to explore your body. Find out what feels good and what doesn’t, because you’ll need to communicate these things to your partner.
2. Do Some Spring Cleaning
Make sure your back door is, er, swept clean. Spend a little extra time in the shower cleaning it inside and out, and shave it if that makes you feel more comfortable! If you’re still nervous about making a mess, try an at-home enema.
3. Lube Is A Must
I don’t think you’re ready for this jelly. JK… you better be. Anal sex isn’t something you want to YOLO. One of the best anal sex tips I can give is to make sure you have plenty of jelly, or lube, in stock. Try a silicone based lube because it’s compatible with latex condoms and lasts longer than water based lube.
4. Frankie Say RELAX
This is one of the most important anal sex tips, so read it again. RELAX. The sphincter muscle is what keeps it tight and right back there, so the key to having pain free anal sex is getting your sphincter muscle to relax and open up. Anal sex should be pleasurable for both partners!
Like any form of sex, having good anal sex requires great communication. You need to tell your man what to do as well as what not to do.
6. Finger First, Always
Have your partner lube his finger and slowly insert it. Once you’re comfortable with that, have him insert 2 fingers.
7. Slow And Steady Wins The Race
If you love your man enough to actually let him try put his peen in your bum, make sure he understands it needs to be slower than vaginal sex.
8. *Tyra Banks Voice* You Wanna Be On Top?
Yes, you do. Being on top gives the receiver more control over how fast and deep the penetration will be. Your anal sex positions may be a little different than your usual sex positions, so do some research! The best anal sex positions for girl on top moves are: cowgirl, see saw, and lotus. If you’ve mastered those and want to try some anal sex positions from behind, try doggy style, pearly gates, and anvil.
9. Add Some Toys
Did you really do butt stuff if you didn’t use anal sex toys? Toys like vibrating anal plugs are a great way to relax during foreplay, or add some anal stimulation during vaginal sex.
10. Nobody Likes A Double Dipper
Do not, I repeat, do NOT, let your man double dip his peen into both your bum and your vag (or your mouth). This is the fastest way to get an infection. Thank u, next.
11. Take It To The Shower
Probably one of the lesser known anal sex tips, but the bath or shower can be a great way to relax! It also ensures cleanliness at all times.
12. Slow Pull Out Game
Keep it clean with a slow pull out. You’re welcome.