It happens to the best of us – the moment when we start falling in love. It’s scary and sometimes we question it because we are unsure if it’s actually happening or if we’re ready for it to happen. Committing yourself to a whole other person is a big deal and when you admit that you might be falling in love with that person it makes it an even bigger deal. But how do you know for sure? What are the signs that you might be falling in love? We’ve compiled a list to help you start to understand whether or not you might be falling for your partner. And no matter how scary it might be, if you’re experiencing any of these things then you might be falling in love.
1. You Think About Them All The Time
Do you catch yourself just randomly thinking about them? Does something as simple as eating a piece of pizza remind you of them because that’s what they wanted on your first date? If so, then you might be falling in love. If you can’t seem to take your mind off of them or if even the most mundane things remind you of them then that could mean you’re in pretty deep. You could be washing a dish they once used and immediately you’ll start thinking about them and what they might be doing. This is a clear sign that what you have might be a bit more than like; it might mean you’re falling. And you’re falling hard.
2. You’re Craving The Cuddles
Cuddling is super intimate and if you’re craving the cuddles more than the sex there are some deeper-rooted emotional feelings that you are feeling. When you get just as excited to cuddle up in bed with them as you do when you’re doing the other fun stuff then that means you’re falling in love. If being that close to them – feeling safe and secure in their arms – gives you a serotonin boost, there’s a good chance that you are developing feelings of love. You’re falling in love with that person and you feel it most when you’re just lying together.
3. It Feels Really Easy
Relationships can be hard. Especially at the beginning when you and your partner are just starting to figure it out. When it starts to become easy, that’s when you know that you are falling in love. Granted relationships take work, but when it’s work that you want to be doing it doesn’t feel like work at all. If you find that it’s easier to plan dates, that you don’t get anxious when they call, and that it’s easier to come back from an argument, then that’s when you know you’re falling in love with that person. The easiness is proof that there are stronger feelings than just the like you felt at the beginning of your relationship.
4. You Talk About Your Future Together
And this usually happens when you don’t even realize you’re doing it. If you catch yourself talking about the trip you want to take together in three months or spending next year’s Christmas with their family then you might be falling in love. It’s not weird to talk about these things that are happening in the future because you know that they’ll still be around for those things. And it’s even better if they talk about a future together also because then you know that they’re falling in love, too.
5. You Miss Them After A Day Apart
When we start a new relationship sometimes saying “I miss you” is just something we do because it’s cute. It sometimes comes out as just a habit; a response we’ve used many times and have trained ourselves to say when someone says it to us first. But, if you start saying “I miss you” because there’s an actual ache and pain when you are apart from your person then that is a clear sign you’re falling in love. The pain means that they are a sure part of your life now, and if you can’t stand to be away from them for even a day then you, my friend, are falling in love.
6. Things You Usually Don’t Like To Do Are Fun When You’re Together
I remember I knew I was falling in love with my boyfriend at the time because I would go on hikes with him even though I hated hiking. I also tried coffee because he liked coffee; I would drink it when we would go to coffee shops together but stopped drinking it when we broke up because I didn’t actually like it. When you start falling in love with someone you start to try things that you might not have liked before because they like them or because they seem okay as long as they’re doing them with you. I hated the hikes, but I loved spending the one-on-one time with my boyfriend when we were on them. I still don’t like coffee, but when he convinced me to try his, I would do it without hesitation. When we start falling in love, we put the dislike on the back burner because when the person we love is involved, the things we dislike don’t seem that bad after all.
7. You Can Be Yourself Around Them
When we start relationships we try really hard to impress the other person. We make sure we look our best, we don’t act out of pocket, and we do everything to give off the best version of ourselves. When you start falling in love, that all kind of just goes away. You start telling them the lame jokes you’d tell your family and closest friends and you no longer care if they see you in sweats tucked into your socks, your comfiest and raggediest hoodie, and a messy bun when they come over. When you realize you can be your complete weirdo self around them, that’s when you know you’re falling in love. When you’re falling in love, you’re comfortable and the true you can really start to shine.
8. They Are Your Go-To For The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly
When they’ve become the person you want to tell everything to then you know you’re falling in love. When you want to tell them about the great day you had or the stupid argument you got into with your sister, you’ve fallen in love with them. When you feel their sadness and they feel yours in a genuine way, you’ve both fallen in love. Telling each other the good, the bad, and the ugly and going through those things together means that you have become each other’s person. Once they’ve become your person and you’ve become theirs, that’s when you know for sure that you are falling (or have completely fallen) in love. You’ve found it, so cherish and hold on to it for as long as you can.