The weeks before move-in day are filled with preparation, shopping, packing, and slowly saying goodbye to your loved ones. Although this transition is an exciting time for parents, grandparents, siblings, and other close relatives, it can also be very worrisome. Many family members want to make sure they keep in touch with their college-bound relatives. With the proper actions, you can make your loved ones know you still care, all while keeping your independence.
1. Select the best way to communicate.
With all the technology and social media out there, it’ very simple to let people know what you’ve been up to. Many people enjoy talking on the phone, while others prefer hashing out an email. Currently, the use of apps like Skype and Google Hangouts has increased, so they could be great ways to keep in touch. Before leaving for college, talk to your family members about how they would like to keep up with you. Pass around your username so everyone has it. For some families, a couple of texts each day will suffice. Others desire a phone call once per week. Make a plan, and stick with it.
2. Let them know what’s going on in your life.
Your parents want to feel involved, so it’s important to keep them in the look. Let them know what you’re doing with your free time, how you’re liking your classes, who you’re hanging out with, and so on. In many cases, though, it can be frustrating to talk about your newfound freedom. For instance, many college students struggle with talking about grades with their parents. But just remember: you’re an adult now, and to gain respect from your family, you need to communicate with them in a mature manner.
3. Find time just for them.
Most students find that they have at least one day per week that isn’t busy. Take advantage of these slow days to contact various family members. Whether it’s a phone call, an email, or a texting frenzy, give them the lowdown on the interesting things you are coming across. Also, take time to ask them what they’ve been doing and how things are back home. Simple gestures such as these will help them feel involved in your life.
4. Go to them, or have them come to you!
Sure, you’ll get to go home for holidays and such. Keep in mind, though, that there is a rather large chunk of time between move in day and Thanksgiving! Try to go home for a weekend sometime a few weeks after move-in. It may be tempting to spend time with friends and former classmates the entire time, but make sure you apportion some time for your family members. Your parents, grandparents, siblings, and other close relatives will appreciate it. Additionally, many universities offer programs throughout the year for moms, dads, and siblings, so make sure to let them know about these events in advance!
5. Ask them for help when you need it.
It can be really hard to admit that you aren’t completely on top of things, especially to your parents. After all, you’re an adult now and want to prove you can act like one. Asking for assistance or advice doesn’t show immaturity, though. More likely than not, your parents want to be supportive of you and help you in any way they can. Whenever you have to make an important decision, it might be a good idea to talk it out with your parents. Who knows? They may provide you with the perspective you need to conquer your obstacles.
Have any great methods for communicating with the ‘rents? What about experiences with having mature conversations with your loved ones? We’d love to hear from you! Tweet @SOCIETY19 or comment below.
Sydney Dawes is an Ohio University student studying journalism. Her passions include writing, social media, Netflix, Pokemon, the color yellow, and betta fish. After earning her degree, Sydney plans on becoming a foreign correspondent for Middle Eastern affairs. Or going to law school. She really doesn’t know. Twitter: @sydneydawes_95, Instagram: @syd_the_kid1995